Struggling to get a diagnosis for my almost 5 year old

I am unsure how to respond to individual responses on here but i am reading them all... means alot.


I hate the naughty label and tbh my mam is also guilty at saying this in front of my son. She knows there is something underlying also but contradicts herself and tells him hes naughty and says it within earshot of him. Hes taken a real dislike to her due to this fact. 

I have been reffered to SPACE its where they refer us before Cahms in our bourough. 

I have exhausted myself trying to get help. My health visitor who backed me completley and reffered him to SPACE panel and educational phsycologist isnt about anymore as we have passed the age of criteria.

And i feel no one else seems to understand my pleas.
We have pushed to get him into speech and language therapy he was attending with the school before lockdown. But made no progress as he refused to speak to the lady. He spoke during his initial assessment at the surgery with a different lady and i was so happy he spoke to a stranger i cried. He was very reluctant but it was a game and he named animals and i was so proud.
She concluded that he has back to front speech and that hes introverted amd quiet and may be why hes having trouble at school.

School issues.. im debating leaving the school because the wont provide one to one for him. I asked for kais progress to be monitored in a home to school book. So id write kai slept well or didnt or had outburst etc and they write down his behaviour at school etc. And do a reward jar for each i provided book jar and gems they declined the jar and aaid they have their own sticker system (dojos) but the jar seen dome improvement at home yet they still declined. And the book one day they would write in it thr next they wouldnt. 

I called a meeting then with a family support worker and the headmaster the class teacher and the senco it didnt go well.

And kai was on reduced timetable which meant he had to come home before lunch and wasnt allowed to activities. Clearly i fought the desicion kai would cry he couldnt have lunch with his friends. He was banned from movie club and his brother got to go etc.. it was awful to see him so upset over it and crying " me be good now mam" ?

I fought and he was allowed in the christmas concert but its a fight at every turn ?


Single mam and have raised both boys on my own for 4 and half years feel like im drowning in it all 

Sorry my replies are so long i just feel relieved i get to vent it tbh

@Cher_Scope i dont have much in way of support. My boys dads family arent involved havent been since they were babies and my father passed away when i was pregnant for my youngest. And although my mam is great for practical help, shes not so great with emotional support she never has been.

I have requested nt to be in with the SENCO again judt headmaster and teacher from now on. Shes the worst teacher at that school, not very warm person. I was clearly distressed and struggling and i took lists of concerns down and came out of there feeling downtrodden

SPACE decided as kai hadnt been in school that long ( he started in the jan and wad reduced half day and taken off school just before the summer holidays last year they decided to let us work with the school educational pyschologist.

His main class teacher was the one who eventually told me kai hadnt spoke at all in class for 9 months amd she was a social worker previously and remarked about other issues his aggression and how hes so busy amd will only sit to eat. The only time hes engaged lesson wise os arts and crafts other wise hes rollimg round not listening. She seemed to support my thinking. And when the educational pyschologist came in she followed kai for an hour and said he was doing well. And the teacher back tracked on everything she told me like the not talkimg (selective mutism) the not interacting with children etc.

A week later he was sent home and told to havr few dayd home because he threw a book at a childs eye and punched anothrr child who took his snack.

So we are now on the waiting list again to see Educational pychologist xx