How to help

Options
emg5
emg5 Online Community Member Posts: 6 Listener
edited September 2020 in Autism and neurodiversity
Hello, I have a daughter 6, who is currently on the pathway for an autism assessment. The last week my daughters meltdowns have increased, and she often says shes worried about school. (For context she  didnt do well going into school, academically she was fine but she hated going in. I often had to carry her past the school gates and teachers were pulling her off me). 
One of her big difficulties is change, weve had to change going to a friends party today because both me and her are a bit snotty and due to current situation it's not advisable to mingle. Shes currently having a meltdown and I'm stuck at how to help. I am also at a loss at how to help her feel happier and try to head off the meltdowns before they occur. 
I am still waiting for a parenting class to help, had one booked in before lockdown but no more are being offered as of yet. 

Thank you in advance, sorry for the essay. 
Emma

Comments

  • Tori_Scope
    Tori_Scope Scope Posts: 12,468 Championing
    Hi @emg5

    Firstly, there's no need to apologise at all. You're always welcome to vent here :)

    I believe that changes in routine are often very difficult for people with autism to handle, so I think you've come to the right place to find advice on how to help your child when they're having a meltdown. You might also like to pop over to the Parents and Carers category to find other parents who might be having a similar experience.

    I found this page on the National Autistic Society's website, which gives some useful tips on preventing and coping with meltdowns for you to read in the meantime. 

    I'm sorry that your class got cancelled, that's annoying, but hopefully they'll be able to run it again soon. Are there any classes running remotely at the moment that you could access? 

  • Chloe_Alumni
    Chloe_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 10,506 Championing
    Hi @emg5 and welcome to the community! Just wanted to check in to see how you are doing. :)

    I hope you can get more information about the classes soon!
  • emmarenshaw
    emmarenshaw Online Community Member Posts: 697 Empowering
    Hello @emg5 welcome to the community.  How are you doing?. Please let me know if I can help you with anything, even if it’s just a chat.
  • Coffeebreak
    Coffeebreak Online Community Member Posts: 8 Listener
    Hi @emg5, my daughterhad similar issues when she was in primary. Try researching low arousal technique. Andy Mcdonnel has published a new book for parents.
     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u39UQV932Ug
  • steve51
    steve51 Online Community Member Posts: 7,121 Championing
    Hi @emg5

    Welcome to our online community/family.

    I am one of the Community Champions here at Scope. 

    We have got a senior member within our community who will hopefully be able to offer you some help/support. 

    Hi @Richard_Scope

    Can you please offer me some help/support with this post.

    Many thanks. 

    @steve51