Anyone else feel guilty for not bring proactive with their child?

Beesmummy798
Beesmummy798 Online Community Member Posts: 71 Contributor
edited June 2021 in Families and carers
My name is (Removed by moderator on request of user) and I have Bipolar2 with constant depression and anxiety. I also have fibromyalgia diagnosed in 2019.
I have a daughter who is 20 and a son who is 4 (a lovely wee surprise baby). Anyway.. I feel soo guilty as I'm not able to give him the active life he deserves. I'm (Removed upon request of user) with various health conditions and each day I wake it's the 1st thing on my mind as I don't want to stick him in front of the tv, I want him to lead an active life with me which I just can't do at the minute. He starts school in September which I can't wait for him to see more of life. All I can do from the sideline is show him love, encouragement and security. Anyone else feel guilty for being sick? ?

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  • Ami2301
    Ami2301 Online Community Member Posts: 7,877 Championing
    Hi @Beesmummy798 I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling like this, although I can relate. My daughter is almost 8 months old and very active, I have to sit by on the sideline watching my husband or my Mum do more stuff with her. I'm really trying not to feel guilty, but it creeps in from time to time.
  • Ross_Alumni
    Ross_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,611 Championing
    Hello @Beesmummy798

    I can understand why this would make you feel bad but from my point of view you seem to be doing a brilliant job, providing love, encouragement and security are such essential things for a child's development and it's fantastic that you are paying such close attention to making sure he has those factors in his life :) 

    Do you receive any support from a family member or other loved one in the areas that you find difficult, such as the more active things?

    And how are you managing with your bipolar 2, depression and anxiety? Do you have effective coping techniques?
  • Beesmummy798
    Beesmummy798 Online Community Member Posts: 71 Contributor
    @Ross_Scope hi thanks for your reply. Thankyou I have a great family unit and they do the activities such as going to the park, playing football, swimming etc with my son which I can't do. It just plays on my mind that his memories of those activities won't include me his mum. Just plays on my mind. I have a great family doctor, psychiatrist and support worker to help manage my illnesses so all good there ?
    Also could you edit my post to take out my name and age as I shouldn't have put these in, I've been subject to online fraud before. Your help would be appreciated x
  • Ross_Alumni
    Ross_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,611 Championing
    I understand that @Beesmummy798, but I'm sure that you are able to create amazing memories with him in other ways that will stick with him for the rest of his life :) 

    I have removed those details for you.

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