Having negative experiences when you tell people you have Fibromyalgia
claudiiewilson
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Hello all,
Just wondering if anyone had any negative experiences? I've recently had one at my work place. I work as a Medical Receptionist and long story short, one of the Doctors who works at the practice said that "Fibromyalgia isn't a real issue" I was so in shock I didn't respond to him and instead left and had a cry in the toilet (had supportive colleagues with me) Just felt so angry, I don't wish this pain on anyone and would certainly no be pretending.
Just interested to see if anyone else had dealt this something like this?
Just wondering if anyone had any negative experiences? I've recently had one at my work place. I work as a Medical Receptionist and long story short, one of the Doctors who works at the practice said that "Fibromyalgia isn't a real issue" I was so in shock I didn't respond to him and instead left and had a cry in the toilet (had supportive colleagues with me) Just felt so angry, I don't wish this pain on anyone and would certainly no be pretending.
Just interested to see if anyone else had dealt this something like this?
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Hi huni so sorry for what happened to you im only 2 n half years in
most people have been great certain people say can u just not try this or this or are u sure they cant fix you ??♀️And my reply is no there isnt and i do what i am able i dont really care if dont belive me
dont need people like taht in your life
report it document who witnessed it and put fomplaint in stress and upset will aggrivate your condition
well done for carrying on working i didnt manage it so high five and keep going xx -
Hi @claudiiewilson, yes I'm afraid I have. I was with the Rheumatologist at a London hospital, who claimed to be the world's expert on Fibromyalgia and he bluntly said to me that Fibromyalgia is all in the mind and he would not allow me to have any further investigations.
Since then, I have had ongoing investigations at a different hospital and it has been found that parts of my bones have died due to chronic steroid use. I admit that this is not related to the Fibromyalgia, but for a Consultant to refuse to believe that a patient with Fibromyalgia, which of course is not a psychological illness, might have other illnesses was absolutely appalling. God save us from doctors who are convinced that they know everything and the patient knows nothing about their own body!
You might like to contact the Fibromyalgia Assessment helpline for more support. All the best. -
Association, not assessment, @claudiiewilson!
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MrBee said:Snap 34 years of them and somehow I'm still alive as most have committed suicide by the 30th year!
You need to be super tough & resilient to deal with all the negativity from family and so called friends and so called humans. Very few out there I would call human! -
jimbob21190 said:Hi huni so sorry for what happened to you im only 2 n half years in
most people have been great certain people say can u just not try this or this or are u sure they cant fix you ??♀️And my reply is no there isnt and i do what i am able i dont really care if dont belive me
dont need people like taht in your life
report it document who witnessed it and put fomplaint in stress and upset will aggrivate your condition
well done for carrying on working i didnt manage it so high five and keep going xx
Thank you, I am struggling with work and looking to drop down a few hours. xx -
Oxonlady said:Hi @claudiiewilson, yes I'm afraid I have. I was with the Rheumatologist at a London hospital, who claimed to be the world's expert on Fibromyalgia and he bluntly said to me that Fibromyalgia is all in the mind and he would not allow me to have any further investigations.
Since then, I have had ongoing investigations at a different hospital and it has been found that parts of my bones have died due to chronic steroid use. I admit that this is not related to the Fibromyalgia, but for a Consultant to refuse to believe that a patient with Fibromyalgia, which of course is not a psychological illness, might have other illnesses was absolutely appalling. God save us from doctors who are convinced that they know everything and the patient knows nothing about their own body!
You might like to contact the Fibromyalgia Assessment helpline for more support. All the best. -
@claudiiewilson
well go above your managers head
she isnt aloud to say that to you
its a invisable ilness
looks like need retraining on these matters .
i have alloydina along with fibro and chronic pain syndrome
the alloydina causes me glow bright red like im sun burnt its the only visabile part of it but lesst i have something can see .
except my legs dont wont proper it was all caused by spine injury .You do whats best for you work wise
ask them to have occupational health report done i did when i used to work and they sided with me . -
I'm sorry to hear that you had that experience @claudiiewilson. You're unfortunately not alone in having this kind of reaction, and there's certainly a lot to be done to improve attitudes towards those who live with conditions like fibromyalgia. I'm glad that most people around you have been supportive
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Hi @MrBee,If it's not an issue why is it classed as the fourth most painful disease in the world well above Birth.Do you have any evidence to back up this claim?
I'm not doubting at all that fibromyalgia causes people a lot of pain, but it's important to try and remember to back up claims with evidence where possible.It's hell on Earth and no-one can ever fix it as it's a Genetic disease.According to the NHS website:It's not clear why some people develop fibromyalgia. The exact cause is unknown, but it's likely that a number of factors are involved.This means that genetics can play a part, but the exact causes of fibromyalgia aren't known.
Here are some of the main factors thought to contribute to the condition.- Abnormal pain messages
- Chemical imbalances
- Sleep problems
- Genetics
You're right that there's no cure as such, but there are some treatment options out there to help people manage their symptoms. You can read about these on the NHS website.
I've also removed a part of one of your comments that may be upsetting to other members.
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Hi @MrBee,
As has been pointed out, your experience is your experience, and should not be presented as fact. We're not trying to deny that fibromyalgia is painful for you, but rather point out that everyone's experience will be different.Do the research yourself and you will find that it's deniable and then it's verifiable.If, in other cases, you have irrefutable evidence to back up your claims, you should provide a link to this.
I've also removed a line from your comment that constituted a personal attack against another member. We don't allow this on the community, as is outlined in our house rules. -
Hi @Tori_Scope, I find it very sad that some members always have to dispute what others are saying, quoting a "lack of evidence".
Specifically with regards to Fibromyalgia, there have been several books written by doctors who actually researched the subject thoroughly. They concluded that Fibromyalgia is a "real illness". Quite often, patients with Fibromyalgia have significantly more dental problems and specific skin problems, such as deep cuts and scaling at the side of the nose. I've had both problems for years. Doctors should be looking to acquaint themselves with the results of new research, rather than dismissing patients. And I wish members of this Forum would be more understanding and give people the benefit of the doubt rather than arguing seemingly for the sake of argument. -
Are you quite sure that I was talking about you, @Username_removed? In fact, the reason I did not mention any names, is because during several different threads, irrespective of the topic of conversation, someone, I did not say you because it can be a different person each time (!) seems to argue simply to contradict people.
I didn't think that this Forum was supposed to be about proving anything but simply expressing our difficulties as people with chronic illness or disabilities or both and hopefully getting some support and understanding.
The last thing we should be doing among us is uosetting each other. And if you'd like me to clarify that @mikehughescq, I am still talking in general terms and not attacking you personally. In fact, the person I do admit to criticising was the doctor who told me that Fibromyalgia is all in the mind because he refused to listen to evidence from other doctors who say that it is a physical illness. And yes, there are published books with actual evidence. -
Hi
as a person how has a chronic illness and disability
i do agree with both sides
yes its a illness that doesnt have a easy test to say you have it unfortunatley .
its more of ruling out anything else it could be . And fighting for a diagnosies of anything to explain what is happening to you .I have been lucky with my consultants i have seen and family friends since i got diagnoised .
everyones journey is diffrent and no 2 cases of any chronic illness is the same ,
everyone is entililed to there opinions but .
this post was about support and advice about a incident of someone upsetting the OP
and have they had any simaliar experceince and how to deal with it not about if its all i. Your head or its a proven illness .
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Hi @mikehughescq, you remind me of my University tutors, whenever we wrote an essay, every sentence had to be validated with a reference to a scientific paper.
But this Forum isn't a scientific or academic presentation. Yes, people ought not to express wildly unreasonable views but they can express their views nevertheless, without having to cite a scientific paper every time.
I don't know why you are dismissing books on Fibromyalgia, the ones I read were based on actual research.
Hi @jimbob21190, I agree with you. -
Hi @mikehughescq, why are you doubting that we needed to validate every statem
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Let's start again, @mikehughescq, why are you doubting that we had to validate every statement in our essays with a scientific reference? And it wasn't just a quick quote off the Internet, we didn't have the Internet, we quoted from medical journals, books and scientific papers. Having said that, as I mentioned before, this is not a scientific forum and people are free to express their opinions.
The reason I particularly mentioned the particular doctor who dismissed Fibromyalgia as "all in the mind" was because his attitude proved dangerous. He instructed that all investigations be stopped. He made the assumption that a patient with Fibromyalgia couldn't have any other illness. By the time I had investigations at another hospital, it was found that parts of my joints have died, "avascular Necrosis". That's why doctors' opinions and actions matter and they should be more careful about dismissing patients. -
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