Looking for parents of children with CP and PVL

Hi all, 

I'm Jodie, I'm 30 years old and a Mum of two. A boy and a girl. My girl is 13 weeks old and neurotypical. My boy is 2 years and 4 months, he has been diagnosed with Pereventricular Leukomalacia and resulting in Spastic Diplegia Cerebral Palsy symptoms. He has global development delay and some sensory processing issues too. I'm stay at home Mum/full time carer to Colby (my boy)

Colby still can not bare weight through his feet so can't walk. He can do a normal crawl which he just started doing before he was 2. He can pull himself up to stand but on tip toes. 

The teams we have involved are his hospital paediatrician (still waiting on community paediatrician to take over - I think this is the patch team which we're being referred for) his neurologist at Southampton who we've just seen who confirmed everything above (now don't need to see for a year) a dietician because he has always been quite low weight especially recently so needed prescribed shakes to help him bulk up, health visitor, orthotics (he has weighted shoes which he doesn't like) Solent physio, we get to see OT next week finally (hoping we can get a referral to wheelchair services too as he is too tall for all strollers I've brought and they don't support him enough) we are also going to have a volunteer hopefully come once a week to help us go on walks as I don't get out when my husband is at work because Colby doesn't like being in the tandem pushchair. We've spoken to SALT before too but they say he's too young just yet. He also goes to a specialist nursery 3 mornings a week. So I'm hoping this will help him develop more.

Recently, Colby has been having major meltdowns (not behavioural tantrums) where he screams, cries, kicks and lashes out, bangs his head on things to the point where I can't take him anywhere he isnt used to, because it seems to be too much for him out of his routine. He seems to be having these daily and often, they also seem to be increasing in severity. I have told everyone in his health team and they all say there's not too much they can do right now as they don't like to do autism assessments on someone so young, is this normal? Surely early diagnosis is key to set them up for their future, to find triggers etc. I've worked with young adults with CP, brain damage, and autism before (10 years+ working in care) and early diagnosis and treatment seems to be key to preventing full blown episodes of challenging behaviour and SIB. I don't want it to get so bad that it's beyond my control. Any parents have any advice for me here?

Colby takes Baclofen 3 times a day (1ml) for pains and stiffness. He will also often have what appear to absent moments, they did an EEG but this came back in normal range so didn't seem to be epileptic at that time. I guess I'm writing this all down in the hope someone has been through similar. I feel like I can't take my eyes off him for a second but very hard to deal with, whilst I'm nursing his sister too. 


Anyone have any advice for me, or simply similar stories with their own?

Many thanks,

Jodie.