Embracing Life

JoOfVengerberg
JoOfVengerberg Scope Member Posts: 498 Empowering
in Coffee lounge
So I turn 30 this summer. I find that summer makes me really anxious, as when I was abused it was in a very hot country so every summer makes me feel on edge. I was also put down for my appearance so I stopped wearing shorts and haven't really worn them since. I hate going out with bare legs because of this as well, even though wearing tights in summer is way too hot!!

What I am getting to is that this year it all stops. I am a summer baby, and I am going to embrace it for the first time in 16 years. I'm going to buy nice clothes, start exercising in water (pool walking) to get strong and toned. I am so tired of being scared of life. I'm tired of feeling like i'm in my 70s when I'm not even 30 yet. 

I see women in their early 20s who look so carefree and happy and I wish I could go back in time and let myself be that. But I can be that now.

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  • Steve_in_The_City
    Steve_in_The_City Scope Member Posts: 793 Trailblazing
    @JoOfVengerberg You can certainly be the person you want to be. When you have been abused it creates self-doubt because the people around you are reducing your self-esteem; you are young, vulnerable and impressionable. So I am glad the time is now right in your life to leave the negativity behind you. You go right ahead and wear shorts if that makes you happy.

    Think of it this way: People who have never been abused dress as they like and wear shorts regardless of their figure. Hope you have a wonderful summer.
  • Adeline
    Adeline Online Community Member Posts: 141 Empowering
    Good for you @JoOfVengerberg! The more you do it the easier it will become too. 
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 63,038 Championing
    Good luck @JoOfVengerberg you can do it
  • Lou67
    Lou67 Online Community Member Posts: 8,711 Championing

    @JoOfVengerberg

    So sorry to read what you went through in your past. 

    I’m so pleased your not going to let it hold you back anymore. You go for what you want in life and wear what you want and you’ll feel so much stronger In yourself.

    Take care ❤️
  • JoOfVengerberg
    JoOfVengerberg Scope Member Posts: 498 Empowering
    Thank you @Steve_in_The_City @Adeline @Sandy_123 @Lou67 for the love and support <3
  • Alex_Alumni
    Alex_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,538 Championing
    That's a really positive outlook @JoOfVengerberg thank you for sharing :)

    Personally, I feel like the older I get, the more I'm becoming comfortable with myself. Thinking of ourselves with more compassion can be hard sometimes, but it's something we all need to do more of!
  • JoOfVengerberg
    JoOfVengerberg Scope Member Posts: 498 Empowering
    Alex_Scope said:
    That's a really positive outlook @JoOfVengerberg thank you for sharing :)

    Personally, I feel like the older I get, the more I'm becoming comfortable with myself. Thinking of ourselves with more compassion can be hard sometimes, but it's something we all need to do more of!
    I guess now I am thinking life's too short to let their opinions of me stop me from enjoying life! I'm glad you're also feeling comfortable :)
  • Starlingbird
    Starlingbird Online Community Member Posts: 168 Empowering
    Something I read recently:

    "You'll stop worrying about what people think of you when you realise how seldom they do".

    So true. 
  • katz23
    katz23 Online Community Member Posts: 1,897 Empowering
    @JoOfVengerberg

    I am sorry to hear of your abuse but really pleased to hear that you are ready to move forward with your life in a positive way.

    Wishing you the very best ❤️
  • Grinchy
    Grinchy Online Community Member Posts: 1,953 Championing
    So sorry to hear of your abuse, i hope you are able to push through and wear and do what you want, from a fellow abuse survivor i wish you all the very best x
  • JoOfVengerberg
    JoOfVengerberg Scope Member Posts: 498 Empowering
    Thank you @Starlingbird @katz23 @Grinchy big hugs <3
  • Starlingbird
    Starlingbird Online Community Member Posts: 168 Empowering
    For you too, @JoOfVengerberg 😊

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