Salespeople/charity workers & social anxiety

66Mustang
66Mustang Online Community Member Posts: 15,160 Championing

This might be a slightly controversial topic but I thought it would make a good discussion subject.

How do people feel about salespeople or charity workers setting up in places you HAVE to go, like the sole entrance/exit to a shop, or outside a doctor’s surgery, then approaching people as they walk in.

Before I sound like a misery guts! :D I would love to help all of the charities if I can, and I try to do my bit, but obviously money is an object so saying “no” is something you have to be able to do, but I figured that a lot of people can’t do this.

Should they be told to set up somewhere where there is an alternative route so that people can avoid them if they need to?

I’m especially interested in responses from people with social issues or anxiety but anyone is more than welcome to comment.

I find it easy enough to say “no thanks” but if I were on my own I don’t know if I’d have the confidence and would probably get suckered in. I have lied in the past when it was the AA breakdown cover looking for new members and said I am already a member.

Thanks. :)

Comments

  • JessieJ
    JessieJ Online Community Member Posts: 1,004 Trailblazing
    Like you, I say a polite 'no thanks' to those collecting or canvassing outdoors, that is sufficient for most. Those that are uninvited that ring my doorbell are a different kettle of fish, especially as I have a sticker politely saying no thanks to cold callers, salesmen & religious groups beside the bell push (I'm hesitant to get one that mentions disability). They still ring & when I finally get to the door, just carry on with their spiel when I open it. I'm not tight, but I give to charities I choose, not to those that hound & certainly not to those that think they're not cold callers.
  • OverlyAnxious
    OverlyAnxious Online Community Member Posts: 4,923 Championing
    I wouldn't go in a shop with a single door.  I can't stand the ones that force you to walk through the entire store and checkouts just to reach the exit again.  That sets off my entrapment symptoms with agoraphobia.  I need to feel like I can 'escape' a building at any time.

    I'm not a fan of the charity collectors but can't say I found them to be a massive issue socially.  I'd just keep walking past and give a small headshake if they appeared to be approaching me.  

    I don't feel guilty for not giving to every charity.  I choose the ones I wish to donate to and do so online.  I don't appreciate being 'forced' into it, and I certainly don't appreciate the sob-story adverts played on certain TV channels that are clearly designed to prey on more vulnerable people.
  • WelshBlue
    WelshBlue Online Community Member Posts: 901 Championing
    Reminds me of the time my daughter whacked me across the head

    My wife to daughter ... I gave money to the collectors in Co op today for the MS Society today

    Me ... Did the table have wonky legs

    Daughter ... Hilarious ... whap

    Before I'm hung out to dry ... my daughter has MS