If I avoid cheaters and players because they are not boyfriend material, what are your thoughts?

Splatmate24
Splatmate24 Online Community Member Posts: 411 Contributor
edited September 2023 in Relationships
It was my experience with some good-looking guys who had previous relationships, but my relationship experience wasn't very positive. Some of them cheated on men and had a lot of drama with my friends. They did tempt the guy to cheat on me and they succeeded. I rejected their friendship requests and didn't get mad at them, but they got mad at me. Cheaters were rejected. Until I saw it on Facebook, I didn't realize he had multiple accounts and relationships until I met him through online dating. The texts stopped after we met, as he thought I was out of his league since he was older than me and did not get into a relationship with me. He did, however, get into a relationship with a woman I saw on Facebook and rejected. As for the other guy I met up with, he was unsuitable because he wanted something different for a relationship. He wanted a long-term relationship and a sexual relationship. He did send an ultimatum and we were already in a relationship. I decided to end things and he was uncomfortably with my mother about being on dates with me since for safety reasons. We're not compatible second men that i metup and that last message he sent to me and i blocked him. I met up with one man on Thursday 7 and is went great and did bring our mum to a date that I met through facebook dating and he did give me a gift of salted caramel chocolate Lindt. He was a bit late but was very short date because me and my mum had to drop off my younger sister to work. He did set up at next date in his town and is bowling. Two of the guys were not players but that i mention here first one was a players and two other guys were not players. If I avoid cheaters and players because they are not boyfriend material, what are your thoughts?

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  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,922 Championing
    It sounds really difficult that you are still not having the best of luck with meeting people and dating people @Splatmate24 :( Your safety is absolutely paramount and should be the most important thing to someone wanting to meet you. Do you know when the next date is and how you are feeling about the second date with the guy? It is absolutely your decision if you want to avoid cheaters and players if you do not feel they are boyfriend material. What matters is that you follow what you want and need and trust your gut instinct as well as staying safe  :)
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Online Community Member Posts: 411 Contributor
    @L_Volunteer the second date has be  canceled again and have got rejected for looking different things and he wasn't ready . is more annoyed that now i find another person. i can't seem to get attracted to men that i met in social clubs or events . some reason i can only get attracted to some men that i met off from online dating site/dating apps . still not having any good lucks just more bad luck that i don' want but still get . my mum said to go different type of person .

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