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  • davidj49
    davidj49 Community member Posts: 63 Courageous
    Sounds bad, you must see your GP and say you want to go scuba diving, but without a certificate of health from your GP, the scuba diving school will never let you dive...I know this to be a fact, and why risk your life just to scuba dive? This doesn't make any sense.
  • bendigedig
    bendigedig Community member Posts: 254 Pioneering
    @davidj49

    thanks for your concern David.  Dont worry though,  im not going to do anything daft.

    im in no rush to find out if I can get into a wetsuit again!  Lol

    thanks for the excellent H.S. Advice though.  Much apreciated :)
  • VioletFenn
    VioletFenn Community member Posts: 124 Pioneering
    Everyone should chat more, it make life much more fun ;) And scooby diving would be BRILLIANT  :D

    Violet
    ASD advisor, Scope

  • joannarashelle
    joannarashelle Community member Posts: 135 Pioneering
    I have the first two series of Scooby Doo on DVD if that would help anyone's scooby diving?
  • Anonymous123
    Anonymous123 Community member Posts: 27 Courageous
  • joannarashelle
    joannarashelle Community member Posts: 135 Pioneering
    @Anonymous123 sorry couldn't resist!

    But I really do have the first two series of Scooby Doo!

    How sad is that! 
  • Anonymous123
    Anonymous123 Community member Posts: 27 Courageous
    @joannarashelle nothing wrong with that if that is what you like
  • VioletFenn
    VioletFenn Community member Posts: 124 Pioneering
    I've got Trap Door on dvd and it is my favourite thing ever - I bet I'm the only one who remembers that one ;) 
  • Sam_Alumni
    Sam_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 7,671 Disability Gamechanger
    Dont you open that TRAP DOOR! You're a foooooool if you dare! 

    I LOVED Trapdoor!!!!  :D
    Scope
    Senior online community officer
  • bendigedig
    bendigedig Community member Posts: 254 Pioneering
    BURK,  FEEEED ME!
  • VioletFenn
    VioletFenn Community member Posts: 124 Pioneering


    If anyone wants me, I'll be in my happy place ;) 
  • bendigedig
    bendigedig Community member Posts: 254 Pioneering
    @VioletFenn

    I introduced my son to Trapdoor (amongst other long gone televisual delights"). when he was younger.  He still loves it :)  Its great isnt it.  The best thing Willie Rushden was ever involved in.

    "Oh Glummits"!


  • bendigedig
    bendigedig Community member Posts: 254 Pioneering
    Its "oh Globbits" isn't it.  I didn't do badly from memory, Im not going to beat myself up about it.
  • Anonymous123
    Anonymous123 Community member Posts: 27 Courageous
    @VioletFenn Hi Violet again.
     I didn't have a very good day at work today.  It's a long story! Anyway the gist of it is that I recently started working almost full time and I have a really sensitive colleague who keeps getting offended at things I say or do, but won't give me the chance to explain when she confronts me in front of everyone.  My unfortunate coping strategy is too cry, but I try to hide it, however once I start I can't seem to be able too stop!  I also can't talk about my feelings or what happened without crying because I am a very emotional person.
     I am worried that I will loose my job because of this, as although my boss spoke to my colleague and asked her to be a bit more patient with me, I can see things like this happening again.
     I want too know how when someone is nasty too me or confronts me critically, but won't let me explain myself, how I can just let it go and get on with my work without crying.  Do you know of any coping strategies I can try?
     I was even thinking of seeing a counsellor. Do you think that would help? I am worried they won't be able to fully understand my Aspergers, so don't know if it would be a waste of time and money.
  • VioletFenn
    VioletFenn Community member Posts: 124 Pioneering
    Hi @Anonymous123

    Apologies for taking a while to reply - I don't always get chance to check in as often as I'd like when work's busy. 

    As for crying - I do it too! It's frustration I think, as much as anything. I'm assuming that your boss knows that you have Aspergers? If so then they are duty bound to help where they can, so don't worry about losing your job. 

    It's a coping strategy that you need, isn't it? Some kind of instruction you can follow in such a situation. Firstly, I would try to remember that you cannot control what others are offended by - so as long as you do your best not to be offensive, that's your side of the deal done. It's up to the other person whether they get offended or not. Would you feel better if you dealt with things in writing? I've learnt that dealing with emotional situations via email helps me hugely, because firstly I can read through what the other person is saying and double check that I'm interpreting it correctly; and secondly, I can draft my response, leave it for a while and then edit it again when I'm feeling a bit cooler about it all. It also means that I'm not at risk of howling in front of them!

    As for counselling - I honestly don't know. I'm pretty sure though that there are counsellors around who specialise in dealing with people who have ASD. It might be worth your while speaking to the Scope helpline (it's not available at weekends but reopens on Monday morning) - they might have more details of where you could find such a therapist. 

    Phone - 0808 800 3333  

    Email - helpline@scope.org.uk

    Violet
    ASD advisor, Scope

  • Anonymous123
    Anonymous123 Community member Posts: 27 Courageous
    @VioletFenn thanks Violet I will try to remember that.  
    It just hurts when I'm trying my best to be a nice friendly person and I get snapped at for any little thing.  
    Ill try and phone that number during the week.
    Thanks for all your help.
    I read somewhere that it is good to cry to release emotions, otherwise you get angry and can take a tantrum, so that made me feel a bit better as I would rather cry than have tantrums! 
  • lonewarrior
    lonewarrior Community member Posts: 23 Connected
    edited June 2017
    Sam_Scope said:
    @bendigedig @Anonymous123 and everyone else, it is of course ok to chat on this thread (and any of the others!) 

    This community is here for people to chat, connect and share experiences and it is brilliant to read such interesting comments! Crack on!  :)
    Hi Sam thank you for confirming it's ok to chat, I have gained so much from reading and talking about issues, no matter how much each one of us has gone through there will always be an alternative more suited to an individual problem, we are all different but coming together and talking through stuff can be so rewarding. @bendigedig you are awesome! Loved reading your accounts of growing up, I never fitted into any group and had handme downs, I enjoyed not fitting in until it became easy for others to mock, I then deliberately chose to be as different as I could be,I made a positive out of a negative situation. I mocked the majority for being like sheep all wanting to look the same and act like one another. @Anonymous123 you are a lovely person and I hope being here will help you understand that regardless of how bad things seem they will get better, just try to be you.
  • adarby12
    adarby12 Community member Posts: 3 Listener
    Hi my son is 5 years old and currently on the umbrella pathway as he is showing signs of possible ASD/aspergers...as this is new to both of us all information advice is very welcome! Many thanks
  • debbiedo49
    debbiedo49 Community member Posts: 2,904 Disability Gamechanger
    What age were you when you were diagnosed and what triggered it ? Having just watched Are You Autistic? it seems that there may be undiagnosed parents of children with ASD. They were talking about the lost generation. 
  • jenna86
    jenna86 Community member Posts: 4 Listener
    hi, my son is 5. He was seen by a paediatrician when He was just 4.. he has a few things going on, joint hypermobility, he goes to speech therapy, doesn’t like loud noises, anxiety etc etc. Strange behaviours. She didn’t think there were sings of him having asd. 
    I am convinced he is autistic. He has been “playing church” everyday for over 2 years... I’d say that is a child with asd and an obvious obsession but maybe I’m wrong?
    Read more at https://community.scope.org.uk/discussion/42653/obsessive-behaviour#iov1HL3o8ZU7wTzC.99

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