Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) and coping skills.
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@Albus_Scope , thank you for chatting about this subject because it has opened my eyes and at least i don't feel foolish anymore. So thanks 😊.2
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Beaver, thanks there was an early morning message from Ada which must have been deleted along with the rest so yes.
I hope posting what I did was fine of course. I identify as Asperger's as lots of us do.
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No problem @Strawberry1, I'm glad it was helpful.
And I agree @WhatThe, just because it's not diagnosed any more, personally I see no issue at all if people use the term, as that's what they were diagnosed with.1 -
It was very helpful @Albus_Scope .very helpful indeed.2
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Dr. Lorna Wing OBE introduced the term Asperger's along with the diagnostic procedure still used, DISCO - Diagnostic Interview for Social and COmmunication disorders.
She was a leading psychiatrist, co-founded the National Autistic Society and carried out the research which enabled thousands of girls and women to be recognised as autistic.
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Lorna Wing coined the term Asperger's syndrome in 1976. Then it was removed from diagnosis in 2013 as it was easier using a 4 stage system (DSM-V) to diagnose levels of ASD.
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In 1981, Lorna Wing launched the term Asperger’s syndrome in a scientific paper in Psychological Medicine. She described Hans Asperger’s ‘autistic personality disorder’ and speculated about outcome and aetiology. Thanks to this publication, Hans Asperger’s findings from the 1940s were also introduced to the English-speaking part of the world. Since then, Asperger’s syndrome has become one of the most talked about diagnoses and concepts in clinical medicine.
NIS National Institute for Health
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Though from a brief history of Aspergers;
"First described in 1944 by Hans Asperger (1944), it was not before 1994 that Asperger Syndrome (AS) was included in the fourth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, only to disappear in the Manual’s fifth edition in 2013."2 -
When I asked for a fit note using the term ASD it was refused by one of the GPs at the practice because it wasn't reflected in my notes because my diagnosis says Asperger's!!
I usually say ASD these days because I thought that was the modern term but apparently the GPs system doesn't have a tick box for it but only for Asperger's!!
I got really worried because I referred to it as ASD in my PIP form and then the GP was saying I don't have it and they got really exasperated with me when I told them how anxious they were making me:( I thought PIP were going to think I was making it up!!
But as it turns out they don't even contact GPs anymore I needn't have bothered worrying about it.
The.GPs did listen though and now they put ASD on my fit notes. Which hopefully I won't need for much longer because I had my WCA yesterday, although most of the questions were about my physical condition not the ASD anyway.
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GPs are still quite woefully ill-informed when it comes to neurodiversity. Especially if they did their training a few decades ago now. Our knowledge in this area has increased so much in the past few decades and we're still only really scratching the surface. But it's rare this gets fed down to front-line doctors unless they're actively looking for the information.1
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Hi
This is my first post here and I hope you'll be sympathetic. I'm 52 and haven't got a diagnosis yet because it's damn hard to get an assessment through the NHS. I'd never even considered the possibility that I was autistic until the Psychiatrists suggested it on the Psychiatric wing of Pentonville Prison this year. On that note it was my first short spell in prison in my life and boy was the corruption in the whole criminal justice system shocking. That's despite spending 15 years in the mental health gulag after an employer and the Police tried to frame me (cue 15 years of Police harassment).
But back on topic: I take rejection by women hard because if I really like them, I really like them. I tend to form strong bonds with people and I'm always the one that tries to keep in touch with old friends and am surprised when it turns out they've deleted my number.
I also feel shame very strongly; a couple of things which happened to me in my early twenties probably shaped my whole life to date, when on reflection a lot of people would have got over them easily.
There's a lot more I could say as I try to self diagnose if anyone's keen to help me.
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Hi @RomfordRob. I've copied your comment and posted it in the autism category for you. There's the link below so you can find it easily 😊
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I'm currently waiting on results of my ADHD referral and it's been difficult. RSD is just so exhausting however your advise is reasonable @Albus_Scope. ❤
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Yes I am like that, is this also a thing of BPD , The rejection, I find it hard and I need assurance. I think for me losing family members, dad pefering my brother to me.etc has caused a lot of anxiety.
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Hi @Andi66. I'm so sorry for your loss. Rejection is always difficult to deal with. Do you have support at home or any mental health support in place?
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I have my daughter but don't want to impress on her as she has asd and bpd,
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I understand that @Andi66. We've sent you an email can you look out for it please?
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I sent my doctors info which the email should have the other info on. As my antidepressants aren't working. I've stopped them. The doctor I spoke to previously wanted to put me on the ones I had before which were no good in the end, and offered no other alternative
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I have this typical example when scope said they would read my posts before posting them I felt rejected but I don't go inwards I retaliate lashing out trying to defend myself I sent my ADHD form off and alot of my symptoms are like boys have but yes I get very defensive I think it's from years of trying to defend myself I'm hurting inside but if I show that I will become vulnerable and hate feeling vulnerable and years of being laughed at by my parents telling me to toughen up
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Yes I feel inadequate, I feel a failure. Although I have had counselling at the beginning of the year, Thoughts and how you feel always be with you. There are others who drag you down. That ex friend who has accused me of faking and using my autism which is a lie . I have been diagnosed, yes it was late. Accused me of being ok throughout my life and managing. How does she know. I struggle my whole life trying and feeling not fitting in etc. I've known her a year. It's got to a point I'm scared of saying anything or doing anything. I have got a autism wristband and a lanyard with I have autism to show I have.
I'm hate being weak. I hate what I am . She has made me feel like this. All this worry . I wish I was strong like my siblings and my late mum. But I'm not I'm spinless idiot who gets things wrong
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