How

Catherine21
Catherine21 Posts: 5,654 Championing
edited October 2024 in Everyday life

How do people stop over thinking to the point of pure exhaustion I'm finding it harder as I get older I lay in my bed thinking my life is over I had to send information to council like millions of people do but my mind takes me down dark places can't sleep eat relax like waiting for doomsday and I had a drink Thursday night so the remorse and anxiety overwhelming luckily I didn't txt anyone stupidness I cant think of a time in years I've ever felt happy I' always worry fear of abandonment losing everything don't go out don't go on holidays I'm so low sending the information worrying are they going to question my spending I understand why but just terrifys me my daughter and dad sick of my constant fears of life never used to be this bad feel tired defeated have amazing doctor but only so many tablets you can take daughter says change your mind set I've been like this since 3 I can really remember the unhappiness at that age I've had 50 years of this only peace is sleep and even then the dreams this labour saying about Mental health haven't a clue its like an abusive relationship that no ome can see how to keep coming back from knocks after knocks it's so hard hurts me deep id love to go out be free be happy feel apart of something but I'm like a battery people life events drain me so badly makes me feel ill just wish goverment would lay off and give us the respect and peace we crave for sorry ramblings

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  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 11,188 Championing

    Hi @Catherine21 I am sorry you worry so much. It is only a few days until the Budget so hopefully we will at least know what is going to happen. Please try not to let things get you so down. What films are you watching at the moment? Please take care of yourself.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 5,654 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/931255#Comment_931255

    Thankyou something about weekends me thinks x

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 5,654 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/931260#Comment_931260

    I think so maybe thought should be doing something I go do some house cleaning

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 9,681 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Totally agreeing with everyone, keeping that busy mind even busier is definitely the key @Catherine21 it's not easy to be left alone with your thoughts, but cleaning is always a good option.

    As @Nightcity has said, you've been doing great recently, but little brain wobbles are to be expected, so please try not to be too hard on yourself. We all have them. Weekends do tend to be harder. ❤️

  • whistles
    whistles Online Community Member Posts: 2,046 Championing

    I will say something a bit different in regards to over thinking.

    I have been doing just that with with my council review. I found that allowing myself to over think and look things up online for a few days. It actually put a stop to it because nobody can take in all the information and after a while it became boring.

    The positive out of the review was coming here and discovering we are migrating anytime now until 2025. I wouldn't have had the chance to digest that without the review.

    Now I feel better, it's out of my system. So maybe instead of trying to stop yourself from over thinking. Get a pen and paper and write it all down, allow your brain space to get things out in the open as it might shut up after that. Its a release.

  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 9,681 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    An excellent suggestion @whistles I'm a big fan of journaling now. I always write things down. Better out than in, as the saying goes.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 5,654 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/933416#Comment_933416

    My daughter journal's I'm the same whem I received the benefit review I was shaking even calling housing association was to much I phoned my daughter crying I'm losing my home she's like what now mum I was like oh no this is real so explained and she's like you have to stop this you can't live all the time in fear at that point no talking helped I went to bed crying all weekend I really do need to try and help myself somehow this is draining I've kept myself from society making calls getting information is to overwhelming have to mantra in my head everything always worse case scenario

  • whistles
    whistles Online Community Member Posts: 2,046 Championing

    So I would right things down instead of calling everyone until you have processed what you are reading.

    Reviews are normal.

  • Catherine21
    Catherine21 Posts: 5,654 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/933552#Comment_933552

    I will step back and think not fair on my daughter I am a strong person but when comes to DWP I'm beside myself thankyou

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