Hi, my name is DebM25! Neurodivergent and having issues with being misunderstood.

DebM25
DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener
edited November 1 in Autism and neurodiversity

Hi Everyone

I am so glad to be joining this neurodiverse group

I am needing any advice about being constantly misunderstood about my neurodiverse symptoms when they are expressed ,especially with the police and my university

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  • Albus_Scope
    Albus_Scope Posts: 8,059 Online Community Team

    Heya @DebM25 and welcome to the community. 😊

    I'm late diagnosed, so I can empathise a fair bit with your problems. Have you spoken to them directly and explained you're neurodivergent and don't react as a NT would with many things? Are you having issues with your emotions?

  • DebM25
    DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener

    Thank you so much for responding i am very grateful for your comments

    I had 3 years of discussions with my university to the point where they acknowledged their treatment of me in meetings broke the Equality Act 2010 and offered me a small amount of money but nothing changed in their attitude and with my own department my head of department didn't do agreed remarks of assignments and caused a lower degree which means now a substantial complaint

    The police are just totally ablist whenever I have brought up disability in relation to many harassment complaints about my neighbour and often laugh it off in front of me or ignore it

    I have made complaints bit it is a lengthy process and stressful

  • OverlyAnxious
    OverlyAnxious Community member Posts: 3,357 Championing

    Personally I am more scared of police than burglars.

    I know I wouldn't be able to comply with their requests due to my conditions. But I wouldn't even be able to communicate that to them now. They have the power to forcefully gain entry to my property, arrest me, and even have me sectioned…

    It shouldn't be that way. But it isn't going to change.

  • DebM25
    DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener

    Thank you for your comments Overlyanxious I never thought at 61 I would say how much I mistrust my local station and neighbourhood team

    TThey viewne as a problem and difficult I view them as poorly trained and ablist

  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Scope Member Posts: 11,834 Championing

    welcome to the community I just wanted to point out that this isn't just a sight for neurodivergent group here it's for all disabilities. There's a forum on the National Autistic Society which might be better for you if you are looking for people with intellectual disabilities.


    However you can do both and I would suggest you have a look at the coffee lounge and the games den so you can have fun and hang out.

  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,362 Championing

    Deb, hi and welcome to the Scope forum 💜

    I had to check what an intellectual disability was and I'm glad to say autism is not one!

    There are a lot of us here and there is plenty of support. Keep asking questions or post new threads and people will find you. Trying to make ourselves understood is so hard isn't it?

  • DebM25
    DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener

    Hi durhamjaide200

    I apologise for any unintentional offence .I thought I was posting on the neurodiverse and Autism Scope online community

    I am not on the Autism spectrum, I have other neurodiverse conditions and normally they are not classified as an intellectual disabilities but mental health disorders.Of course it depends on whether your on the social or medical model

    I have other disabilities but was struggling with my neurodiverse conditions and the Scope operator suggested I go into the online community

    However if this is not the neurodiverse online community group I will leave and go there

    Thanks

  • DebM25
    DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener

    Thanks to everyone who has responded today

    I am very new to the online community and posting

  • Amaya_Ringo
    Amaya_Ringo Community member Posts: 169 Empowering
    edited November 2
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/935011#Comment_935011

    Echoing Whatthe - Autism is a neurodevelopmental disorder but it isn't an intellectual disability. Some autistic people do have intellectual impairments as cooccurring conditions with autism but I think the numbers are less than 50%.

    Speaking from personal experience, this misconception can cause issues for autistic people because our support requirements are often different from those who have intellectual impairments. I'm sure it was an innocent mistake ;) but just for future reference :D

    Hi Deb :) Welcome. You did indeed post in the section around autism and ND conditions, so you're good :) The whole site is for all disabilities but we all mix and you'll be welcome in any of the sections :D Just this area is the one that is most centred around ND stuff.

    I was diagnosed as an adult, so I learned to mask a lot, but yeah, sometimes I have to stop and think how I want to explain something to make myself understood.


  • WhatThe
    WhatThe Community member, Scope Member Posts: 2,362 Championing

    Lots of us here are neurodivergent and you are definitely in the right place!!!

  • DebM25
    DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener

    Thanks everyone again for responding and clarifying the definition of the Autism spectrum and all the warm welcomes

  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Scope Member Posts: 11,834 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/935179#Comment_935179

    Definitely don't be leaving I was just saying that if you wanted another community with just neurodivergent people in then there's communities out there however we cater for people with physical disabilities, mental disabilities, medical conditions, mental health conditions and learning disabilities as well as neurodivergent conditions so just because you are posting in the neurodivergent section every one can see and comment even if they aren't neurodivergent themselves. However being neurodivergent is a disability and all of us on here has a disability.


    dose this make sense sweet?

  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 5,349 Online Community Team
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/935179#Comment_935179

    As other members have said you are more than welcome to talk and chat here. I am also neurodivergent as well 😊 This community is a space for all

  • DebM25
    DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener

    Thank you Jimm_scope for your welcome

    Much appreciated

  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Scope Member Posts: 11,834 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/935590#Comment_935590

    I'm so sorry if I came across rude I was just trying to get the point across that this forum isn't just for people who are neurodivergent. I hope I didn't come across rude I'm sorry if I did

  • DebM25
    DebM25 Community member Posts: 8 Listener

    No problem

  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 5,349 Online Community Team
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/935694#Comment_935694

    You didn't come across as rude no, don't worry! I just wanted to reassure them that it was fine to stay and chat here about their neurodiversity.

  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 58,601 Championing

    Welcome @DebM25

  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Scope Member Posts: 11,834 Championing
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/935941#Comment_935941

    thank you for reassuring me

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