Depression after my dog Syd died
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@Tumilty dogs have such beautiful and funny little characters and personalities.They each have their own little habbits and ways.Most rule the home and we wouldn't have it any other way.if it wouldn't upset youand maybe help and you haven't been able to chat to anyone about Syds character.id love to know what he liked most and did he do anything in particular that was sweet.one of my dogs used to chase squirrels and take forever to come back when called!.Another had a funny squeak in her sleep.They will be forever in our hearts our memories ❤️
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100 percent I keep annoying her I'm constantly asking you sore sore she's very clever understands alot she goes downstairs at night I can't sleep have to bring her up last few weeks seen decline and I always had this thought feeling that my dad gets ill and fifi does at the same time and they have like yourself will take along time so we all really understand truly 💔 feel for you
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Yes it's made me think how I'll react when I see him again whether to bring it up or not, I'd have my boy back any day over him even if some would disagree with me.
Thank you @What The, I still feel so upset and regularly cry, also disbelief comes into it at times, I often feel his presence, hearing him jump off the bed or running downstairs.
Yes it's a struggle at the moment it's like after Syd it's what I got to deal with next, really rubs on my anxiety and depression
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand exactly where you are. I lost my big dog seven years ago and although I've got another dog now, and she's lovely, I still miss my big lad.
Syd will only ever be a thought away but for now the best I can say is give yourself time to grieve. I'm thinking of you x
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@Jane315STARX Syd ruled the house, he came to us from a rescue place and think he may have been ill treated as he was nervous and actually bit me on first meeting, also he was very fussy with food, think he'd always been fed off the table. He used to go mad at the postman as he used to sit in the window.
@birdwatcher thank you, yes I feel everything has changed, things that I used to do that I liked, being social I don't want to do any more. Maybe its the grieving process.
@Catherine21 I will, I can't stand people that think like that. I'm in same place with elderly family, when Syd died it feels like the beginning of my folks dying as it usually happens like that, Syd got them out. Sending thoughts, life's **** is supposed to strengthen ya but takes a lot of time. 🙏
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When a dog has been part of your life for so long its a dramatic adjustment and a total shock to your system.This is what you are going through now.Complete grief.This gorgeous dog truly made your life special and left his mark forever.He must have known how happy he made you too X.
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He was a typical Jack, he'd let you know if he'd didn't want touching, that's what I miss the personality around the house. He didn't like walks much or the cold, the house was his playground. The summer will be hard, he loved the garden chasing flies and his paddle bowl, there's always reminders.
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What a gorgeous boy and incredibly brave of you to share his stunning photo.Nothing can replace the love and nor does it have to as you will always have that love of and for him.In time if you feel you can give a home and love to another dog who then I would consider it.Obviously it's way too painful now.It can take many years to get over such a loss and it's what and how you occupy your time and with what.What you are good at.It seems to me you are a loving doggy parent and although you are in deep grief that love is still there to perhaps give.But obviously that choice is with you and in the meantime the photo of gorgeous Syd is a smasher X
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Yes i hate looking at my phone & seeing him, it upsets me so much, just feels like he's back here now but he isn't . When our last dog Tommy died we got Syd within a month as someone showed me a pic on a local rescue center & we went for it but my feeling for Syd is like i can't have another dog in the house as it feels like it's Syd's house.. I'm quite anxious & depressed, helping elderly family out is my life at the moment. The void of him not being here is overwhelming at times.. Seeing his photo panics me as it all seems surreal that he's not here.
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And it will always be Syds house as it yours.Give yourself time and don't feel any pressure to do anything x
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No i don't i just go day to day as we all should. Just seen some pics of Syd i saved to the cloud.. So upset me. I can't bare to look at them or see the vids i saved.. I said same about Tommy the Jack we lost 8 years ago then Syd arrived but Tommy wasn't my dog, he was mums.. Keeping pics & vids to remind yer of something yer can't get back.
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@Nightcity thank you the daily void is unbearable, trying to keep busy and yes, things have changed and I feel a part of me has gone.
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@Nightcity i suffer really bad anxiety & depression all my life & each time something challenges me i fall apart nevermind a bereavement. I've been in a bad way since Syd died, cutting & taking lots of painkillers to knock me out. Everything has changed. I've never felt a loss like it for a long time.
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Thanks, it just all seems surreal but I guess that's the process of grief, nearly 3 months is nothing I guess, I just got to take my time with it all and feel it all and go through it.
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@Tumilty just checking in on you.Hope you are you OK.
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Thinking of you w
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Oh @Tumilty I'm SO sorry for the loss of your Syd I've just read the thread. I hope you are on what I call the right side of coping. I can totally relate to the heartbreak and pain, my last yorkie was euthanized aged 15 on 12th Jan 2016 but 4 days later my 12 y/o shih tzu died suddenly at the vets alone 2 weeks later my remaining 12 y/o shih tzu was diagnosed with a liver tumour but survived another 18 mths. I had all my (4) previous dogs ashes in caskets on my piano and speak to them every day still. I didn't realise grief could last this long bit it's different now not so much acute but I'll miss them for all my life, they were such a very big, deep part of my life for so long. I've 3 shih tzus and a yorkie (8 and 9 now), eas going to somehow 'compartmentise' so I didn't feel as close to them but it doesn't work like that at all!! So I'll have it four times to come one day. I had a lot of counselling after I lost two in a week, if I let myself go there I will still get the sickening sinking feeling of the loss. Anyway, just thinking of you and hope you gain strength within - it did come for me probably 6 months after but only fleetingly. Sending love and warmest wishes x ps my name Santosha is a shih tzu 'breed'/line in memory of my Matilda.
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