Has anyone ever been in a controlling relationship/ been lovebombed?

michael1152
michael1152 Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited January 21 in Relationships

Hi. I met someone one day off a gay dating site. A day after chatting, we arranged to meet 2 days later, but ended up meeting up a day later for a few hours, then they wanted to see me everyday, so went saw each other 12 days in a row.

They stopped overnight here, about 4 /5 times. I stopped there once and net his mother/ sister, he's lived up here for 2 years, apparently escaped an abusive ex who made him dress a certain way, not allowed friends/ used to hit him.

It was going quite, well. Really quick, he texted constantly when he was a work, and at home when we weren't together, then suddenly 1 night he got screenshots off his ex, apparently of me meeting/ caherinngon another lad called Danny, I'd never met a Danny in my life,! Let alone with a red Corsa car! Anyway he was adamant I've cheated and called a weekend away in Blackpool which we'd paid for. And one of these screennshots had this ex and Danny saying where I lived/ worked, all my hobbies and what I did in my life.

I got the police as Inwas really creeper out. And they reconnned the lad I was seeing had made all this up, to go.back to his ex. I also saw my doctor, as the whole thing made my anxiety go through the roof. The Dr reckoned he'd made it all up. I was like whaaaat! He said I've had a really really lucky escape!

He had also shown me this 3 page love letter in his book he'd written all about what he'd mapped out for the rest of out lives and getting married! And also a big list of places where we were gping to.visit. I don't know what anyone else makes of all this? Or had some very weird similar dating experience?

Comments

  • Bluebell21
    Bluebell21 Online Community Member, Scope Member Posts: 6,780 Championing

    Hi @michael1152 Welcome to the Community. I am so sorry you have been through such a difficult time. It would appear you have had a lucky escape.

    You have to be careful when you meet people on dating sites as you only know what they are prepared to tell you about themselves.

    I hope your doctor was able to help with your anxiety.

    Have a look around the forum and join in when you are ready.

    Take care.

  • michael1152
    michael1152 Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener

    Thank you. It was truly awful and very strange, tonnes of affection and constantly told I'm their soul mate, and constantly planning and talking about Valentines day. And arranged a weekend away, just gone and they cancelled it 3 days later! And invited me on his family holiday on July and bought ne a ticket for a show at the end of May without asking me.

  • Ranald
    Ranald Online Community Member Posts: 255 Empowering

    I have had similar to what you describe, but nothing to do with getting back with their ex husband. Just the OTT affection!

    In truth, I would welcome any kind of attention these days, but I think the mobility scooter is a bit of a turn-off for the ladies!