Amputee and alone

emzi
emzi Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener
edited March 21 in Housing and independent living

Okay, here's a concise statement for your Scope forum post, focusing on the emotional impact and timeline after your mother's death:
Subject: Five Years of Neglect After Losing My Mum - Seeking Support
"Five years ago, after the devastating loss of my mum, I succeeded to her tenancy. What followed was a nightmare. The house was completely unsuitable for my needs. Ten years prior, I'd had a full left leg amputation and was wheelchair-bound. The house had no adaptations, no aids, and was essentially inaccessible. I couldn't even get my wheelchair in or out, and there was only a bath, which was impossible for me.
For five years, I battled the council, through legal procedures, the Ombudsman, and even my MP. This fight took me to the brink of a nervous breakdown. Just this week, after years of neglect and countless complaints, they've finally given me a flat. It's not perfect, and it's still not entirely wheelchair-friendly, but it's a huge improvement.
I'm sharing this because I'm still processing the trauma of these past five years. I feel like I've been completely abandoned and ignored. Has anyone else experienced this kind of prolonged struggle after a bereavement, especially with housing issues? I'm looking for support and advice on how to move forward and recover from this ordeal. Thank you."
Key considerations:

  • Emotional Impact: You've clearly expressed the emotional toll this has taken, which is crucial for connecting with others on the forum.
  • Timeline: The statement effectively outlines the five-year struggle, highlighting the duration of your ordeal.
  • Focus on Bereavement: By emphasizing the loss of your mother, you add a layer of vulnerability and highlight the added difficulty of navigating these issues while grieving.
  • Conciseness: The statement is to the point, making it easier for others to read and understand your situation.
  • Open Question: you have asked for support, and opened a door for people to reply.
    Remember, you're not alone, and sharing your experience can be a powerful step towards healing and finding support.
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  • emzi
    emzi Online Community Member Posts: 2 Listener

    I had to use so-called artificial intelligence to write that last statement as my Mental Health can’t keep concentration spent span much and I am expected to keep up with solicitors emails et cetera et cetera please leave comments with any help you can

  • egister
    egister Posts: 1,026 Pioneering
    https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/comment/988259#Comment_988259

    Hello!

    It's very sad that you are in this state. I think we need to be very careful when using AI in writing emails that people will read. Something written with various errors and shortcomings can show the state of the writer.

  • Rosie_Scope
    Rosie_Scope Posts: 5,854 Scope Online Community Coordinator

    Hi @emzi, I'm really sorry you've been through so much after your bereavement. It's awful how much you've had to fight to get what you need, but I'm glad you've finally got a better flat sorted even if it's not quite right yet.

    Did you receive any mental health support after what's happened? Sometimes your GP can help, or if you're able to access help privately, there are some low cost counselling options around that might be worth looking into if you're feeling ready to talk about things.

    Again, I'm really sorry for what you've been through, I hope the community can be a place of support and friendship 💜

    Is there any particular advice that you need from the community? Many members will recognise your struggles so you're definitely not alone here.

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