How can I get unstuck?

I'm really stuck in my life and I don't know how to become unstuck. I'm 32, I've never held down a full-time job, I live with my parents and my older brother, I don't have a girlfriend, and I don't have the guidance I feel I need to get further. I do have a top degree at university, but I feel it's going to waste because I'm not able to find employment and I'm on my own in regards to getting my life together.
I volunteer at a boardgame cafe and used to work a CAB, but discovered that type of work wasn't best suited to me. I want to interact with people and enjoy their company. I also attend Andy's Man Club-which I strongly recommend to any man out there who is struggling with their mental health. Their sessions run from 7-9pm on Monday evenings, and there are over 200 of them in the UK.
I've got a medical condition called Hydrocephalus (water on the brain), and I've faced some real life challenges and uphill battles, but it seems I'm on my own more often than not because although my parents love me, they aren't able to help me. They work so hard day in and day out, yet they don't teach me things and I don't know how to do a lot of things. I can teach myself how to do certain things, but I have a tendency to procrastinate, although I am keeping a diary to help keep track of things to do.
Guidance is something I strongly need but I don't know where to go to find it. I think it's because I always had support in school and during my educational life, but now there's nothing of the sort around me, and I feel lost and uncertain without it.
I believe I'm an undiagnosed autistic as well, which I think is tied to my Hydrocephalus.
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What is your degree in? The university you went to might still offer careers advice to you as one of their alumni so that would be one place to start.
You only need to mention the board game cafe for me to say your suspicions of autism might be right!!
There are professional life coaches and career coaches that can help you set goals and next steps but you would need to pay privately for their advice.
If you are in Scotland - Skills Development Scotland offers free advice and help with CVs. England is bound to have similar.
Or - take the plunge and apply for a few jobs! See if the local councils around you are hiring - they offer a guaranteed interview scheme for disabled people so at least you'd get interview practice.
Finally - the obvious - have you told your parents you need help? I am sure they will help if you let them!
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Ps - have you a social worker? Maybe leaving home (if you feel ready) might help you feel you're moving forward in life and if you have disabilities, you might qualify for a tenancy with some support?
Social work can organise a needs assessment for you.
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