Hello! What help am I eligible for after my wife left?

stevie26 · March 9

I’m Steve and I’m new to this community, so I wish to say hello and thanks for having me here.

I’m a disabled person with heart failure and have just had my wife leave me only a few weeks ago after 20 years of marriage.

Just need a community of like minded people to chat to and see what I am eligible for as I can’t get a mortgage and my wife will take the house in it’s entirety as she does have a 97% stake in it anyway and I will be soon unable to live there and have nowhere to go or live.

I’m on UC and Pip, with mental health issues and this will put me in a bad place.

So what can I do!

I’m struggling

luvpink · March 9

https://forum.scope.org.uk/discussion/130746/hello

Hi there and a very warm welcome the community.

I am very sorry to hear about your health issues and your marriage break up.

I would strongly advise you to seek professional advise regarding your rights to the marital property and any other assets because 20 years of marriage is a long time and you may well be entitled to more than you think you are.

Rosie_Scope · March 10

Hi @stevie26, welcome to the community. Sorry to hear about your break up, that must be really difficult to deal with. As luvpink mentioned, it may be worth getting some legal advice about your rights here to see what you might be entitled to with the house.

Have you spoken to your local council to see if they can get you registered on the housing waiting list?

You might also like to speak to Citizens Advice or a housing adviser to see if there are any steps you can take towards getting a place of your own. Advicelocal has a directory to find local advisers.

If you find yourself in a position where you might become homeless, Shelter can often help advise you: Housing advice from Shelter - Shelter England

Hope things start improving for you soon.

Agnia · March 10

Hi @stevie26 ,

Please, i would like to write to you that im really truly very sorry for the difficult life situation and your marriage break up that you experiencing now , and i really do hope that you find helpful people on your life path,

Please, i would also like to mention that there is an organisation called Samaritans , you can call them any time for free on their number

116 123 , even at night, They are very friendly people who will listen to you and will not judge you,

im wishing you a peaceful evening, please take care of yourself the best you can for the time being.

and i really do hope that things will start to fall into place for you very soon .

Kind regards and best wishes.

stevie26 · March 10

hi Agnia,

Thank you for you’re email and you’re very nice and comforting words.

Really appreciated.

I’m still wounded but on the mend.

stevie26 · March 11

thanks everyone.

I’ve been told to get a solicitor who deals with family law and also specialising in disability as part of that.

Slate & Gordon and OTP come out top. So will speak to them first and then get someone closer to me to take over.

They charge so much!

Agnia · March 11

Hi @stevie26 ,

Thank you very much for writing to me , Please i would like to write to you again that im really truly very sorry about your break up with your wife ( i knew my ex husband for 19 years, of which we were married for 11 years) ,Please i would like to write to you that divorce and separation can be very difficult and your emotions are valid , and this is very important how you care for yourself during a divorce, Please take care of yourself the best you can for the time being and be kind to yourself, and healing take time,

im wishing you a nice day ahead, Kind regards to you.

Catherine21 · March 11

Hello I'm so sorry you going through this thats not easy

luvpink · March 11

@stevie26

I am pleased to hear that you are seeking professional advice because you have rights.

Your wife cannot just take the house after twenty years of marriage you will be entitled to your share, and any other assets you may have.

Its a difficult and stressful process but stick with it and get what is rightfully yours.

Agnia · March 12

Hi @stevie26 ,

Please, i would like to ask you - how are you today?

i would like to wish you a nice day, please take care of yourself as much as you can.

Kind regards.

teuchterlass · March 12

Welcome, we are all here to support each other.

Have a good talk to CAB and family law solicitor (usually expensive but apply for legal aid)

Most marital homes have to be split 50/50, usually no matter who has paid for what.

Do not verbally agree or sign anything until full legal advice received.

stevie26 · March 13

will be chatting with people today, so will be looking at what’s available for me.

Agnia · March 25

Hi @stevie26 ,

Please, i would like to write to you that i do hope you are Ok .

Please take care of yourself, and be kind to yourself, your emotions are valid and your feelings are important, and i really do hope that you have helpful and friendly people on your life path.

Good night to you. Please take care.

Kind regards.

stevie26 · March 26

hi Agnia,

Yes you can write to me on here or my private email address.

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Agnia · March 26

Hi @stevie26 ,

Thank you very much for replying to me , im wishing you a nice day ahead, please take care of yourself the best you can for the time being.

Kind regards.

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