Any suggestions — Scope | Disability forum
If we become concerned about you or anyone else while using one of our services, we will act in line with our safeguarding policy and procedures. This may involve sharing this information with relevant authorities to ensure we comply with our policies and legal obligations.

Find out how to let us know if you're concerned about another member's safety.
Please read our updated community house rules and community guidelines.

Any suggestions

and15 Community member Posts: 73 Courageous
This time I'm asking as a parent,when my beautiful little girl was born all my so called friends disappeared as soon as asd became apparent.i love my daughter and she means the world to me but with her attachment issues it'd getting harder to maintain any kind of social interaction outside of home and work,any suggestions as I do feel very isolated now,thank you in advance


  • Hannah_Scope
    Hannah_Scope Posts: 7,316 Disability Gamechanger
    Hello @and15

    Welcome to the community! :)

    I'm so sorry you feel so isolated. Do you have anyone to talk to or any support from a partner or family?

    How old is your daughter? I wonder if looking for any parental groups (if she is younger) in your area or any groups of interest to you both? like ice skating? It could be a starting point and then you interact with other people, she interacts with other kids, she makes friends, you make friends you can see outside of the kid(s) but it could slowly start to break that attachment? 

    I would also have a look at the Autistic Girls Network, they have lots of great resources. 
    Hannah - She / Her

    Online Community Coordinator @ Scope

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.
    Want to give us feedback? Complete our feedback form now.
  • and15
    and15 Community member Posts: 73 Courageous
    Hi hannah

    Thanks for your reply I have a 6 Yr old but she's looking physically partner is insular and has her own health issues and extended family don't understand my lg condition at all which is daughters social life is pretty good thankfully but as a parent it limited me considerably as I don't get any time alone due to her attachment issues
  • rebel11
    rebel11 Community member Posts: 1,636 Pioneering
    Maybe see if a carer is a viable option, so when you go out a carer looks after your daughter and gives you 'me time'. The carer can be introduced slowly, then eventually takes over for an evening / weekend.  
  • woodbine
    woodbine Community member Posts: 11,324 Disability Gamechanger
    We found that having "kids" changed our social life literally over-night, but I understand from what you are saying that it's more than that, I would start were I you in educating my extended family about her condition in the hope that they may start to understand better.
    2024 The year of the general election...the time for change is coming 💡

  • and15
    and15 Community member Posts: 73 Courageous
    Hi woodbine and rebel11
    I'm trying with the education but they either "know best" aka they have seen rain man!or go into denial.
    As regards a carer I would if I could find one and slowly introduce one but sadly I tried it with my mother and neither could cope but it's worth progressing further thank you
  • Alex_Scope
    Alex_Scope Posts: 7,562 Scope online community team
    Hi there @and15 keep persevering if you can. I don't know if you're aware but Scope does offer Family Services, and I think Navigate or Parents Connect might be worth looking into for some extra support.

    You can be referred for both services, and must be living in England or Wales. 

    If you need help with anything else or have any more questions, please ask :) Keep us up to date with how things go!
    Online Community Coordinator

    Concerned about another member's safety or wellbeing? Flag your concerns with us.

    Want to give us feedback? Complete our feedback form now.
  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,979 Disability Gamechanger
    Oh no, not rain man! @and15 (fellow autistic here)  :p
    Community Volunteer Adviser with professional knowledge of education, special educational needs and disabilities and EHCP's. Pronouns: She/her. 

    Please note: if I use the online community outside of its hours of administration, I am doing so in a personal capacity only.


Complete our feedback form and tell us how we can make the community better.