Rehousing on medical grounds + a victim of antisocial behaviour

iza

Hi does anyone rehouse within the same borough on medical grounds ( I have long term medical condition + my son is showing mental/ behaviour coping problems as we been affected by living next to mentally aggressive woman who is very antisocial and targeting us on a regular bases so we are automatically victims). Any advice where and how should rehoused within the same borough as only here I have few friends, no any family in UK. 

poppy123456

Are you living in social housing or privately renting?

JBS2022

iza said:

Hi does anyone rehouse within the same borough on medical grounds ( I have long term medical condition + my son is showing mental/ behaviour coping problems as we been affected by living next to mentally aggressive woman who is very antisocial and targeting us on a regular bases so we are automatically victims). Any advice where and how should rehoused within the same borough as only here I have few friends, no any family in UK. 

If you are renting off a letting agent/estate agency you can ask (no guarantee) to be transferred or moved to another property but you will have to pay rent in advance/deposit. The same only applies to other private landlords if they have other properties. If you are renting off the council you can become a priority for rehousing if, you need to move for medical/welfare reasons and it's good to get a medical/social worker report when filling in the housing application. How long you have to wait to be rehoused depends on your local council.

Hannah_Scope

Hello @iza

I'm so sorry you are going through that with your neighbour. If you are in social housing, have you spoken to the council or housing authority yet? It may also be worth speaking to Citizen's Advice about this. They have a page on Complaining About Your Neighbour, that you may find useful to read. 

iza

Hi @Hannah_Scope, thank you for your reply. Yes I did complain. I am like other neighbours regularly reporting to Housing Officer, ASB officer, police … I also went through all the process of official complaint against my council housing now my case is in local ombudsman against council and awaiting investigation. But my sons childhood was affected a lot. Children learn by coping adults behaviour and now my son is maturing and is showing challenging behaviour as living next to mentally ill antisocial woman impacted him a lot. As you see I stretched the case to maximum so I looking for alternative way as my son health and well-being is a priority for me. I am single parent who went through serious health problem myself and now I feel a vulnerable as I have a lots to deal with in my life and feel a little bit burn out. 

iza

Hi @poppy123456 & @JBS2022, yes I am living in social housing. The only things I am afraid is that who can guarantee me that if I would consider for example  transfer I will not get into exactly the same situation as living on estate every where could be identical? In my borough all other friends had similar issue too. 

poppy123456

iza said:

who can guarantee me that if I would consider for example  transfer I will not get into exactly the same situation

That would be impossible. It's a chance you have to take unfortunately. I've been lucky throughout my life and with many many house moves over the years i've never had bad neighbours.

Luchia

iza said:

Hi @poppy123456 & @JBS2022, yes I am living in social housing. The only things I am afraid is that who can guarantee me that if I would consider for example  transfer I will not get into exactly the same situation as living on estate every where could be identical? In my borough all other friends had similar issue too. 

Sadly that’s not something anyone can do, people move in and no one can guarantee you will always get good neighbours 

SydRae

I was in a similar situation with a neighbour (private landlord) and my mental health has deteriorated dramatically, the neighbour wasn't even the tenant, her son was. Even tho she has moved out of next door I am still looking over my shoulder and feel like I can't settle here anymore , I have a 3 year old daughter, who seen this woman ranting and raving , using foul language , arms flying at me or my ex partner one day and then sweet as pie the next. 
This woman is question , could be very intimidating and was in  a very powerful job within a local council. 
She could pictures of me and my daughter leaving the property daily, videoed us and contacted my landlord everyday. 
Due to her behaviour I couldn't take anymore and contacted my local MP, asbo team and police. I advised my landlord of this, the next day she left the property 3 weeks early than she intended. My internet line was cut, so no phone line, I asked for the CCTV of dates she had targeted me, 10 months on he still has not provided me with this
At first my landlord was very supportive as I had been in the building for nearly 4 years without any complaints, but little comments would be said such as do u know who she is, I believe my landlord was intimidated by her too. 
 
I ended up retaliating, by blocking her car in, which I know was wrong but I couldn't take anymore. My landlord said it was unacceptable, and I can't park the way I did, but the cars were taxed and on a public rd I pointed this out, and sent the foul messages she had been sending me to my landlord.

Since then there has been a breakdown between me and my landlord, as I believe he told her I had contacted the police, an he he wouldn't provide CCTV. I got into a little arrears and he came banging on my door saying I owed him more than £3000, when u proves this was incorrect and it was actually £191 plus that month's rent, are relationship has never repaired.

I have contacted housing options as I can't live here anymore , my mental health is through the roof , the rent has gone up and is going up again, which I can't afford to be told because I told them about the about arrears I can't bid for any properties, without a red from my landlord.
I don't speak to him and will not ask for a ref , so that's that  I can't get any help from them I'm currently band F even though house options said I should be band C but if I provide my medical evidence I will move up a band or 2.
I have nowhere to turn, and feel like I can't go on like this , and will be living in a tent before long with my daughter, an the woman in question knows we're I live, I either go out early and don't return till gone 11pm or I don't go out for weeks /months.

WhatThe

Hi iza,

In social housing, you can register to swap your home with either a council or housing association tenant and view properties and areas of your choice 

The landlords need to approve the swap and rent payments must be up-to-date but you make all the arrangements yourself 
 

Hannah_Scope

@SydRae I'm going to pop an email over you you  

SydRae

Hi Hannah ,
My mental is up and down but not too bad at the moment. 
The MP I spoke to too, got the ASBO team involved, and advise me to contact police to get it logged.
Even tho I know the woman isn't next door now I am constantly looking over my shoulder, and i know  this is due to my state of mind.  I was very reluctant to report this person at first, due to her position, but my daughter stopped sleeping through the night and would wake up crying about the monster banging. It started to effect her so much I need to report it.
I am aware of similar complaints against her in both work and personal life , to the point of sitting outside and watching through the window at her previous property. People who have been intimidated by her never do statements against unless anomyously.
I'm finding it hard because I have always been a very strong person, and now struggle to leave the the property or stay out till as late as possible. I feel half the person I was.

But pls be assured I have a beautiful talented 3yr old daughter, and she gets me through.
I have read all information possible, but haven't spoke to anyone such as shelter, only housing options, so I will try and speak to them.
When I'm having a good day physically and mentally I just get out with the baby,  I feel guilty on the baby so if I'm having a good day I want her to enjoy herself, cos on a bad day we don't go out and these days are more often.
Thank you 

Hannah_Scope

I hope reaching out to Shelter helps, please keep us updated on that  

Have you thought about talking therapies? You can refer yourself through the NHS and sessions can be done remotely. I think it could really help. 

Please don't feel guilty. There is a great thread in the Coffee Lounge called KaleidoScope: Our own gallery for members' art work, crafts and photographs. You may find some great crafting ideas to do with your daughter on those days you stay home? 

SydRae

I have been in touch with talking therapies and we have agreed I'm not in the right place and would not benefit from it, right now, I'm unable to commit to them, homework etc.
Due to being just me and baby home with no support network, I can't deal with physical and mental health flares up, a baby and homework, waiting for ops, further investigations etc.
I know all the above is not helping my mental health. I believe if ops etc were done then I would be able to manage a little better with everyday life.

My background is working with children with SEBD , profound needs,  learning difficulties, mental health etc, due to physical health anyway I do a lot activities at home , since a tiny baby had a very structured day.
Thank you for all your help and will check the arts and crafts out always up for new ideas.