Wedding Day nerves as a disabled person?

Cher_Alumni

Your Wedding Day is arguably one of the biggest, most significant days of your life, so it's understandable to have a degree of apprehension about the practicalities!

And in this Enhance the UK blog post, one wheelchair user receives advice and reassurance around fears of being looked at whilst coming down the aisle, the first dance and more.

For instance:

There is often pressure for brides to walk down the aisle and to have the perfect photos. If it is not possible for you to walk or you may use all of your energy doing this, try not to stress about this or let it get you down. The day is about you and your partner so do what feels best for you both rather than worrying about what others think. There are plenty of examples of people coming down the aisle in groups dancing or doing something funny – again, removing that pressure and focus on you ‘walking’ down the aisle and staring at you. But people know you as a wheelchair user so equally be proud of that and flaunt it if you want!

Over to you:

• Did you have any fears about how your day would go and it not being the ‘normal’ way of doing things?
  
• What advice would you give to others in a similar position?
• What memories do you hold from your special day?

Please share your thoughts with us in the comments below! 

Sandy_123

If I was getting married I would be scared of falling down the Isle. But in fairness i think that is every brides nightmare.  

Steve_in_The_City

I once met the most beautiful bride. I was living some place where there were lots of actors. So I asked her if she was acting (she was dressed for the role) but she said no!

Cher_Alumni

@Sandy_123 Definitely, before I graduated I had a fear of falling on the stage when going to accept my certificate. I walked so slowly when I got there 

And oooh @Steve_in_The_City was she on her way to a wedding?

Sandy_123

That would be nerve racking @Cher_Scope . I hate those stage steps with no rails 

Steve_in_The_City

@Cher_Scope Yes, she was going to her own wedding (or had been to it, I can't remember). It was in 1997. I can remember the year because my partner and I moved in to a new flat. She told me they were having drinks in a pub a little way along the street and asked if I would like to come along and have a glass of champagne. I said no (I am a bit shy and don't like mixing with strangers) but I told her she was absolutely beautiful! Maybe not very politically correct of me, but she didn't give me a slap so I live to tell the tale!