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Unfortunately I think I desperately need some help

quickfinger Community member Posts: 6 Listener
I am 75 years old recovering from open heart surgery 6 months ago, the week before Christmas my dear Wife (78) of 56 years of marriage was taken into hospital (sectioned) and held there. Due to some circumstances I have been unable to visit her at all. I am missing her like crazy, and the ONLY persons I have spoken to in that time is my Advocate who has very limited time, I have only met her once due to my poor wifes condition we/I have not one single friend, I live in a bungalow on my own and learned there is very little chanch of her ever coming back  home to me, I love her dearly  and sat down  last night with my huge cache of prescribed medication and contemplated sorting my problems out permanently. I have not slept for 4 nights until then. I woke up this morning with them still in front of me. I desperately looking for an answer but I am ashamed/guilty of feeling sorry for myself. I live in South Wales. No one seems interested in helping me through this at all.


  • quickfinger
    quickfinger Community member Posts: 6 Listener
    I am feeling guilty of imposing this on you good peopleout there, I am so sorry, I really am.
  • Sandy_123
    Sandy_123 Scope Member Posts: 43,635 Disability Gamechanger
    Hi @quickfinger sorry to read everything your going throug would  you  be able  ring  the place  your wife is staying and maybe talk to her.
  • Adrian_Scope
    Adrian_Scope Testing team Posts: 10,599 Scope online community team
    Good afternoon @quickfinger,

    Firstly, I just want to say that there is absolutely no need to apologise. This is a place where people are welcome to be honest about how they are feeling and the challenges they're facing and you're certainly not imposing by sharing what you're going through and what's been going through your mind. You've shown some real strength and resilience by reaching out and talking about your feelings. It takes courage to express deep emotions and I'm really glad you've taken this step.

    It's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and missing your wife deeply. Coping with your own health while also dealing with the absence of a loved one can be incredibly challenging. Right now it sounds like you're really struggling, so I want to encourage you to reach out to the support available to you as soon as possible.
    I'm sure you've heard of Samaritans, who you can contact on 116 123, but you might also want to explore the options available to you through Mind Cymru. It's also really important to tell your GP or someone else involved in your health care about how you're feeling. They will be able to help you find the support you need.

    Right now I imagine things might look bleak, but taking care of yourself is absolutely crucial to your recovery and improving your emotional resilience. Engaging in activities that bring you joy, even in small ways, can help alleviate some of the loneliness you're feeling. If possible, please try to explore local community centres or social groups that align with your interests. Engaging with other people who share your hobbies or passions can give you the opportunity to form strong connections and build a support network.

    If you continue to experience these feelings, please don't hesitate to contact 999. Reaching out for help is a huge sign of strength and you deserve care and support.

    I'm going to send over a quick email with some other suggestions, but please don't worry - you haven't done anything wrong!
    Community Manager
  • quickfinger
    quickfinger Community member Posts: 6 Listener
    What I omitted to say is that I walk with 2 sticks and even then I can just about make the front door.
    Thanks for your reply . The on call Doc cameto see me last evening because my ankles had swollen and began t bleed slightly, quite frankly  he seemed extremely overworked and took very little interest.
    I am grateful that you replied though, thank you.


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