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What can I do to prevent meeting any immature men from my previous online dating experience?

Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
As a woman with learning disabilities, I want to avoid meeting up with or finding an immature man, although all men can be inherently immature at different levels, regardless of how old they are. My past experience was meeting a 33-year-old man who was immature and also a cheater since I found more than one account on Facebook. One of his accounts said he had been in a relationship with a girl since June 2019. I was not at fault, he was at fault because I did not know he had a more then one girlfriend. I met him on a dating app called Badoo for the first time. The guy said he was single in his profile, but he was too forward about his feelings for me, so he stopped texting me. He got into a relationship with a number of women, but that one ended, and he then got into a new relationship with a woman. i have move on from the first guys to the new guys I have been going to meetup in a public park and has a café . that i been texting on whatapp and was brutely honest about who he was seeing at the time. However, the girl broke up with him since he said he would slow down. i said thank you and it is better to go slow in a relationship and not lead up to breakup . he was 31 year old and did have autism and adhhd i prefer men that can be honest and to make sure nothing get lost down the road what comes to relationship that i also met him om a dating sites called freedating .co.uk then first men started texting me when i did move to new gu and first guy was still in a relationship .my previous ex boyfriends were all younger than me some were younger than me and one was toxic . I don't want to get into relationships with immature men or any other types of toxic men . What can i do to make sure I don't want or meetup with immature men to get into a relationship with me ?   


  • Kimmy87
    Kimmy87 Community member Posts: 246 Pioneering
    edited June 2023
    Unfortunately you can't guarantee not meeting an immature man, all you can do is pay attention to how they come across in messages and in person, and reject any you feel there is a red flag for. 
    I can assure you as non LD woman there isn't a 100% way to screen against time wasters, immaturity etc.

    As a friend told me not two days ago, there are plenty more fish in the sea, but you have to spend more time on throwing them back   :D
  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @Kimmy87 I always tried to watch and play attention but has noticed that some men to hide their immature but i always found out through fakebook that when i started noticed red flags . but when i meet them at the social events or groups they seem comes off as immature . i also did get lot immature men from social media and some dating apps / disabled dating .
  • Cher_Alumni
    Cher_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 5,741 Disability Gamechanger
    @Splatmate24 Unfortunately I don't think there's any way of screening for immature men before meeting them! It sure would have helped me in the past  :D 

    I think your intuition is the best guide for who is and isn't right for you, so if something signals a red flag - take heed!
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