hi everyone,
Been dealing with an abusive relationship for past 18 years and trying to get away and separate everything for a long time.
I have been on full PIP for about 3 years for mainly physical but also severe anxiety and depression. I have full time carer.
I applied for UC last week and had to go job centre for ID check as the online thing didn’t work.
My carer came with me and whilst the lady was very nice, she made me another appt to go in next week to see work coach. I said I find it really hard to go out because of my disabilities and also I said about the abuse. I had been told I don’t have to go to work coach interviews for 13 weeks because of the abuse but she said I have to go in still.
The next day I could barely get out of bed, I was so fatigued and in pain. This always happens if I have to go out which is why I rarely leave the house, only to go to important doctor related tests etc or emergency related things.
Things like this, the UC appts, knowing how detrimental it is to my health and knowing it really isn’t necessary for me to go, this gives me bad anxiety and when I say bad I mean truly awful and out of everything that is wrong with me this is the worst. These bouts last for up to 24 hrs, I have memory loss, vomiting, constant nausea, I’m disoriented, claustrophobic, hot and cold sweats and so much more. I can never predict when this will happen as it doesn’t always happen when I’m really stressed, it always takes me by surprise.
I put note on journal to ask if I can have video/phone call instead and I said how much going there last week wiped me out for that day and the next and that I can barely walk on a good day. I got reply to say no.
I also asked where I can email/upload the letter they want from my domestic violence support worker but they didn’t even respond to that.
I have a GP appt to get a fit note next Thursday, apparently I need that before they can give me the assessment form.
I don’t understand why I can’t have a phone appt seeing as my health situation is just ridiculous and also for the fact I have a letter stating about the historic and ongoing abuse. This is stressing me so much it’s unreal plus I have the constant threat of my ex showing up any time and getting messages/emails from him which is all enough to deal with on its own!
There’s a whole long thing on gov website how they help people in DA situations so that made me feel more confident about applying for uc and about how they can give phone appts instead of face to face but so far they don’t seem to care.
Is there anything I can do please?