If you had to explain why some guys rush into relationships, but I don't rush into relationship ? — Scope | Disability forum
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If you had to explain why some guys rush into relationships, but I don't rush into relationship ?

Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
Some men with learning disabilities that i have noticed have been more pushy, and yes, they kept asking me to be their girlfriend/boyfriend, and when I said it was too soon, they asked me out again. Thank you for your interest in me, but I am no longer interested in you. these two men that i never metup with because i didn't want to for being too pushy. That's what I said to two older men, one 33 years old and one 34 or 35 years old. Using online dating, I met some men. Two men one was in a relationship i blocked him was on plenty of fish apps and the other was in an open relationship and i did blocked same plenty of fish apps. What should I do to stop getting pushy men to get attention from that might not be interested in being with a pushy boyfriend or any pushy partner?


  • Jimm_Scope
    Jimm_Scope Posts: 2,361 Scope online community team
    I'm not sure if there's really anything that can be "done" in this instance. Unfortunately, dating is a trial and error process much of the time, in my opinion.

     You can try to be upfront and frank about disliking pushiness, but that doesn't always mean those that are pushy will stop. People like to think the best of themselves and so don't even realise that they are pushy. It's not an easy thing to deal with, if you find a method better than just being upfront about it let us know ^^
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  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @Jimm_Scope is didn't stop and one person said i wasn't being pushy . i blocked two and sent that I'm not intersted in you anymore . they did kept asking me when was too soon and didn't meetup .

  • L_Volunteer
    L_Volunteer Community Volunteer Adviser, Scope Member Posts: 7,979 Disability Gamechanger
    How are you feeling after all of this @Splatmate24
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  • Splatmate24
    Splatmate24 Community member Posts: 370 Courageous
    @L_Volunteer I'm okay now but before is weird and  i knew one guy or two guys were very pushy .age was older then me . i didn't even want to meetup with men that were already starting being pushy . i think one of guy was 33 age and second was 36  age . i think was 33 age year old that said he wasn't  being pushy and i said twice to sson to asking a person a out . then i told that i'm not intested in them anymore . i think one them did has some red flags .


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