Hi, my name is dalkin88! Help for son

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Hello . I'm receiving pip for mental health issues I've been suffering from for over half my life. I'm receiving so much abuse from my ex partner for not working.  I legally don't have to but I give her over £100 per month for our son but I still get abuse from her and her daughter.  My 9 year old son listens to this and keeps asking me question like "why arnt you working and paying my mum" . It's all what she tells him. I give him pocket money and send money to his mother that I haven't got but I'm still being shouted at , called a bum and useless.

dalkin88

I got my sons school report the other week and his attendance was below 80% and he was behind on every subject.  I contacted his mother and said that we need to do more home work with him and she needs to make sure he attends more. That we both need to do more to make sure he catches up. Then I just get bombarded with the fact that she works and I don't and I'm just a useless bum and have no right. I have my son every weekend.  He loves seeing  me but I can't raise anything with his mother without her screaming that I don't work and should just shut up

dalkin88

I have no idea how to deal with this . I can't have any input on my sons welfare and I'm just being put down constantly by his mother and her 14 year old daughter.  It's making my already **** situation unbearable really.  I couldn't feel any lower 

Hannah_Alumni

I'm so sorry that this is effecting your mental health @dalkin88

Can I ask, do you have support around you? There are amazing organisations like SHOUT who are a 24/7 mental health texting service. You said in your post you don't legally have to give her the money you do, if it is ok to ask, is there a custody agreement in place? I would encourage you to read Citizen's Advice pages on Making an agreement about your children when you separate. I'd also encourage you to speak directly to the school about ways to get your son caught up. Maybe they can offer a mediation with your ex too, as you have seen it is effecting your son.