Getting new house in order, any advice/tips on this?

ER_1

Hi, I’ve recently moved home to a ground floor flat, which is wonderful. However, I’m struggling with getting the place in order, and feeling overwhelmed. I’m on my own and my siblings, although they helped me move, both live far away. I’m going to have to pay people to move boxes, put up shelves etc. I get all the benefits I’m entitled to (ex benefits advisor!). Does anyone have any advice/tips on this? I used to do everything myself, but these days I can’t. Feeling all alone with this. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, fyi. Thanks and best to all

chiarieds

Hi @ER_1 - I just wanted to welcome you to the community as I also have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (the hypermobile type). I'm having a struggle today with orthostatic/postural hypotension....having too many of those dizzy as a coot moments this afternoon!

Could you ask your neighbours if they could recommend a local handyman/joiner to help you with shelving, etc., or see if there's a local facebook page where you could ask for help?

ER_1

Thank you! I hope your dizzy spells fade soon, I know the feeling! Yes that’s a good idea, I’ll give it a try. I went out with friends on Sunday afternoon and am crashing massively this week, that along with the fact I subluxed my elbow unpacking boxes the week before means I’m very fed up with it all! Im sure you know the feeling! All the best and thanks for your message 

Jimm_Scope

Hi @ER_1, I don't have Ehler's-Danhlos myself but my partner has EDS. Sounds like moving, even with the help, used up a lot of your energy (or spoons if you prefer using the spoon analogy). I would try reaching out to neighbours like Chiarieds mentions. You've done something quite stressful and tiring, moving house. Getting it in order certainly seems like a lot but perhaps listing out all the tasks, estimating how much energy/motivation is needed to do them and then prioritising can help break everything down.

I'm not sure if that would work for you, but my ADHD brain lumps everything into one giant, overwhelming task. "I must sort out the whole flat" for example, scary, big, so much to do. For me breaking it down into smaller tasks has helped it seemed much less overwhelming.

BeebleBev

I like your comment Jimm_Scope I too lump everything into one big task. "It needs doing and I HAVE to do
it all now" mentality. It stresses me out and I know I should break things down into do-able smaller tasks.

I'm in a 2 bedroom house and am finding now with my chronic back condition that upkeep is too much for me. I'm waiting for surgery on my back and once home and recovering I want took into downsizing. Possibly retiring and know that it's going to be a big stress for me.

Hannah_Alumni

I hope you hear about your surgery soon @BeebleBev  

BeebleBev

Thanks Hannah