Anxious about outcome of my PIP phone call

sunshine41

Hello,

I have been so anxious about my phone assessment as the more I think about it, it went really bad. I have been trying to keep busy and not think about it but kept waking up last night going over what I said. Nearer the end I just kept saying a simple yes or no to think (even though the lovely @chiarieds mentioned to take my time which I started off doing but started rushing half way through).

Sorry to rant but was just feeling a bit upset and wanted to get this off my chest.

Regardless, thank you all for your help.

sunshine41

*things not think

chiarieds

Hello @sunshine41 - no one does perfectly with an assessment, & we're all bothered with thinking about how we could have done better afterwards.....this is all perfectly normal.

But think what you did do if you managed until nearer the end to explain, even if you rushed a bit from the half way mark! You nearly got there, & I know sometimes you just want things over & done with as these assessments are stressful. Everyone is fairly nervous with these too.

The main thing is you got through it, & it seems to me you did pretty good. It happens that some people think their assessment went badly, yet get a good outcome (& vice versa!)

You take care of yourself, & try to relax.

Jimm_Alumni

I will say it's quite natural for our brains to focus on the negatives. You will ignore all the good points you made and things you said and focus on the few things your brain has decided was bad. You said yourself, for much of the appointment you did take your time, that's a positive! 

I mean, my own examples of this is my interview for this job. I left it thinking it was my worst interview performance ever  but clearly I was just focusing on the very few negatives because everyone else thought I did quite well!

sunshine41

Hi @chiarieds and @Jimm_Scope, thank you so much for your kind words. You are right, I should look at what i did achieve and the points I did manage to get across along with getting through it. It is so true, we tend to focus on the negatives. Thank you again

chiarieds

Hope you're feeling a lot better about things now, & good to hear from you