You are wonderful! Explain just *how* wonderful!

Tazzie

This is a community of wonderful people.

Many times, we talk about the problems we have- the struggles we face... let's talk about something else.

What things- even little things- make you wonderful? Has disability helped you be a better person? Are you a better person just because? 

Let's talk happy things and celebrate!

For me, I would say- I am so happy that I have a wonderful assistance dog who really has helped me. She is older now, and I am waiting for her "successor", but she has made me a better, stronger, and happier person.                                                                                                                                                                                                Another thing- I love arts and crafts and making things for people.

And, I like to put my poems in the special Face Book group for our assistance dogs and their handlers- they make other people feel good.  

Share something happy? Who knows- maybe someone else reading this will feel a bit better, or realise they have things to celebrate... that would be great

Albus_Scope

I love to see some happiness on here, it really helps to lift the soul.  So thanks for sharing! 

I've definitely become a more caring person and less me focused since my health went downhill. And I've raised over £3k for various charities with all the silly things I've done in the last few years. 

But the best thing?  That'd be finding this lovely community, I really look forward to logging in for work each day. You're all stars.  

66Mustang

I didn't want to say my health problems have done anything good, they haven't, but I guess there is one little bit of "silver lining", which is that they have made me a stronger person and I don't get phased by little things that bother most people.

E.g. if someone cuts me up on a roundabout when I am driving I would not pap my horn, I just let it go, because there are bigger things to worry about. The person who would pap their horn obviously has very few problems in life if being cut up on a roundabout causes them frustration.

Hope this makes sense?

Hannah_Alumni

@Tazzie We have a few members share their poems in the Coffee Lounge If you would ever want to share with us! 

I would say finding the IBD community when I was diagnosed helped me immensely, but it makes me happy to support new members to the community

WhatThe

Tazzie, you are clearly a wonderful person! What a lovely thread 

I think I am a wonderful person for enduring what I have and reaching my bus-pass birthday

Thinking of Christopher Reeve - Superman! - and the adjustments he had to make after his accident, yes, I believe that disability strengthens our spirit and survival instinct.  

I sometimes smile at people I don't know and their reaction to eye contact makes me feel glad to be alive. Chatting to strangers is spontaneous and rewarding. I try to help poor souls sitting on pavements - the ones not asking or following people around. I've experienced 'random acts of kindness'. 
  

Tazzie

It's been nice to read these

THe poems I do are specific to assistance dogs, I don't think they'd make much sense to anyone else but thanks for the offer.

Anyone else want to celebrate something?

woodbine

I have a wonderful wife who has supported me through good times and bad, as for me personally I have a very strong belief in social justice and although I am slowly becoming partially sighted I try and stay strong and keep my wicked sense of humour.

Tazzie

66Mustang said:

I didn't want to say my health problems have done anything good, they haven't, but I guess there is one little bit of "silver lining", which is that they have made me a stronger person and I don't get phased by little things that bother most people.

E.g. if someone cuts me up on a roundabout when I am driving I would not pap my horn, I just let it go, because there are bigger things to worry about. The person who would pap their horn obviously has very few problems in life if being cut up on a roundabout causes them frustration.

Hope this makes sense?

It makes more than a little sense- you've paid a high price for that perspective. 
You know another good thing? You're here, with us- and we are so lucky to have you!

Tazzie

woodbine said:

I have a wonderful wife who has supported me through good times and bad..

That's wonderful! SO many of us are so fortunate that we have amazing people who are there for us, who appreciate us, and make the world worthwhile. Applause to the Mrs!

What kind of humour is so wicked? Tell us more!

cymbalfern

This is a really thought provoking question. Never looked at health disability challenges like this so I can’t comment at the moment ? Always seen my health deteriorating as a disadvantage. 

Ada

Tazzie said:

This is a community of wonderful people.

Many times, we talk about the problems we have- the struggles we face... let's talk about something else.

What things- even little things- make you wonderful? Has disability helped you be a better person? Are you a better person just because? 

Let's talk happy things and celebrate!

For me, I would say- I am so happy that I have a wonderful assistance dog who really has helped me. She is older now, and I am waiting for her "successor", but she has made me a better, stronger, and happier person.                                                                                                                                                                                                Another thing- I love arts and crafts and making things for people.

And, I like to put my poems in the special Face Book group for our assistance dogs and their handlers- they make other people feel good.  

Share something happy? Who knows- maybe someone else reading this will feel a bit better, or realise they have things to celebrate... that would be great

Do you keep the poor old thing. I have a support dog. So she’s my life long best friend/ baby / whole world. Wouldn’t be here without her. Good luck. Hugs 🤗  

Rosie_Scope

This is a really interesting question @Tazzie, thanks for sharing some positivity!

I think a couple of other people have mentioned this in similar or different ways, but one thing that my disability has really helped me with is patience and endurance.

I was very ill as a teenager and had to spend long periods of time lying alone in the dark just waiting to feel better. Now if I have to endure something tedious or long, I find it easy to break it down into smaller chunks of time and get through it, or I can look for other things to focus on. If I can get through that, I can wait for that bus or sit in that traffic jam, no problem!

Ada

I am still alive. At a grand old age.
Despite a childhood of abuse. And a lifetime of mistakes. I didn’t stop trying to kill myself until in my twenties. 
Now I embrace my Asperger and other mental illnesses and physical illnesses and pain. 
Now I am great full for every day because no matter how they tried to destroy me I have made it to now. 

cymbalfern

I think it is good that some people feel wonderful through circumstances they endured in their lives. However speaking about myself there is nothing wonderful about me. I am just a person no more no less.

cymbalfern

After thought I believe that all disabled have to be wonderful & I hope they all continue with their challenges to be wonderful. I myself just don’t feel wonderful but that’s ok.

Tazzie

cymbalfern said:

After thought I believe that all disabled have to be wonderful & I hope they all continue with their challenges to be wonderful. I myself just don’t feel wonderful but that’s ok.

I can relate to sometimes not feeling very wonderful... what kind of hobbies or activities do you enjoy?