Need some advice.

cheekylittlekoala

What should i do?

My father has a partner and she has her own 4 Grandchildren ( and 2 sons), each year i spend money on her grandchildren for Birthdays and Christmas and a majority of the time when it comes to my Daughters Birthday/Christmas she gets nothing from them. 

My Daughter has started to make comments about not receiving cards/gifts from them and they all spend a lot of time together.

I am on a low income and can just about afford gifts for them and the children's parents have a lot more of disposable income then me.

I don't know if i should message my Father and ask him why my Daughter is not being treated equally or be the better person and keep giving the Grandchildren presents.

With Christmas coming up and finances being as they are, i don't know what to do.

Jimm_Scope

It's not an easy thing to resolve no. Do you know what their financial situation is like? Is there a possible financial reason the partner limits presets to just those they are closest to?

You could talk to your dad and see if there is another reason. I would say talk it out in person rather than through text as in text a lot can be left up to the wrong interpretation. You can talk about how it's making your daughter feel left out by her step-grandmother. If the step-grandmother knew how it was making your daughter feel is she the type of person to at least make a token effort perhaps?

cheekylittlekoala

Hi there,

Its not my Fathers partner who is buying gifts its her Grandchildren’s parents who don’t seemed bothered when it comes to my Daughters Birthday/Christmas gifts.

But they are quite happy to take from me.

honestjon

cheekylittlekoala said:

What should i do?

My father has a partner and she has her own 4 Grandchildren ( and 2 sons), each year i spend money on her grandchildren for Birthdays and Christmas and a majority of the time when it comes to my Daughters Birthday/Christmas she gets nothing from them. 

My Daughter has started to make comments about not receiving cards/gifts from them and they all spend a lot of time together.

I am on a low income and can just about afford gifts for them and the children's parents have a lot more of disposable income then me.

I don't know if i should message my Father and ask him why my Daughter is not being treated equally or be the better person and keep giving the Grandchildren presents.

With Christmas coming up and finances being as they are, i don't know what to do.

You could cut down the expense by sending a birthday card instead of presents.
As you say Christmas is coming and it's a time to relax with your family so avoid getting into an argument and just dedicate your time to your own children. 

Jimm_Scope

Sorry for the misunderstanding!