Friends/family of my partner have financial & care concerns on us moving in together

teasweetly

My partner and I are wanting to move in together, yet we have had some difficult reactions from my partners friends/family. 

They start by saying to her, "I love *me*, nothing against *me*" then just say they are worried about her financially supporting me and she needs to "protect herself" or "he's very unwell" and are worried about her caring for me. 

My partner was pushed to tears by the comments as no one was offering up any solutions or offering their support just catastrophising their concerns. 

It basically feels like people are saying: "I'm great but disabled". I understand no one dreams of our reality but we have built a good relationship and everyone has known I was disabled from the start. 

Does anyone have advice for what to do, what we should say to people? I feel very stuck now as my partner has told me what people have said to her so It will be awkward the next time I see them. 

Thank you! 

Hannah_Alumni

Hello @teasweetly

Welcome to the community!  

I am so sorry that you are going through that with them. If you and your partner want to live together than that's your business. It's your relationship. If they question or comment you could just very calmly say "it is our relationship, we will decide what is best for us as we are the two parties in it." If they push anymore then maybe go low contact for a while? Sometimes distance can make people realise how offensive they are being.