Out and About with Siblings

LauraLil

Hello,
Wondering if I could get some advice. I have three year old twins, one twin has CP, can not walk and has limited mobility. 
Im struggling with taking them out especially on my own to play centres/the park/the shops etc.

One twin wants to run off and play whilst the other has to be held or cant complete the activity.
I dont want to hold one twin back by keeping her in the pushchair etc or only allowing her to play in the baby part of soft play to keep her with her twin but I also dont want to let her do what she wants whilst her sister has to watch on. 

If one twin walks around the shops, the other wants to too. But she isnt able and i have to either hold her up or say she cant come out of the pram which causes a lot of tears, as i cant push the buggy, hold her up and chase the other twin!

I work full time Mon - Fri so heading out at the weekend is busier than midweek for play centres/shops and there are limited childrens groups running at these times.

They arent old enough to understand there is any difference between them and just see this as our normal, which is great as they love each other for who they are but im forever feeling guilty and worried theyre missing out on experiences as its easier to stay at home then risk the stress of being out.

Any ideas on how youve managed siblings with different physical needs would be great. 
Thanks

Jimm_Alumni

Hi @LauraLil, first of all welcome to our community! I hope we can help you, this does sound like quite the dilemma. I understand it must be quite stressful. As you say, you don't want to hold one child back or make things unsafe for the other.

I'm afraid I myself am not a parent, so I have no experience here. I know many of our members are parents however, and I'm sure we'll be able to find some advice I can also check in with our Cerebral Palsy Network coordinator to see if they have any advice.

Jimm_Alumni

Oh, incase it's of some help and you have not yet seen them. We do have some advice pages for parents of disabled children.

I hope some of these may perhaps be helpful?

Disabled child and siblings | Disability charity Scope UK 

Explain disability to kids | Disability charity Scope UK

You also mentioned it can be hard to find events to go to, so I've also linked the following pages in the hopes that maybe you can find some events

Disability discounts | Disability charity Scope UK

Days out for disabled kids | Disability charity Scope UK

LauraLil

Amazing, thank you!