Confused and upset. What are these new appointments?

p29048

I have been on LCW for 4 years. 
I suffer with severe agoraphobia and anxiety, and suspected autism which I am still waiting for an assessment 3 years later.

I was having appointments with a lovely work coach every so often for most of this time and she was really calming and helped me a lot. These appointments with her then suddenly and without warning stopped. I didn't receive any other contact or any other appointments for over a year. Suddenly this month a new appt came up with a brand new work coach. I spoke with her over the phone and I instantly was upset and not liking the vibes from her. She was questioning me a lot, such as asking why I haven't chased up my autism diagnosis as 3 years is 'such a long time' and questioning if I go to the hairdressers and things like that. She then tells me I will now need to attend 30 min appointments every two weeks, and they will need to start being on video call. I'm now back to square one being incredibly stressed and anxious again. Sudden changes like this really mess with my state of mind and I just don't know what to do. I can tell this new coach is going to make my life hell. I felt instantly off put by her. Any advice for what I can do here? I am also aware on LCW you have to do some appointments and 'WWA' which I do, I answer the calls and I also undertake online courses to help build my cv. Any advice on what I can do here? I'm so stressed now.  

honestjon

p29048 said:

I have been on LCW for 4 years. 
I suffer with severe agoraphobia and anxiety, and suspected autism which I am still waiting for an assessment 3 years later.

I was having appointments with a lovely work coach every so often for most of this time and she was really calming and helped me a lot. These appointments with her then suddenly and without warning stopped. I didn't receive any other contact or any other appointments for over a year. Suddenly this month a new appt came up with a brand new work coach. I spoke with her over the phone and I instantly was upset and not liking the vibes from her. She was questioning me a lot, such as asking why I haven't chased up my autism diagnosis as 3 years is 'such a long time' and questioning if I go to the hairdressers and things like that. She then tells me I will now need to attend 30 min appointments every two weeks, and they will need to start being on video call. I'm now back to square one being incredibly stressed and anxious again. Sudden changes like this really mess with my state of mind and I just don't know what to do. I can tell this new coach is going to make my life hell. I felt instantly off put by her. Any advice for what I can do here? I am also aware on LCW you have to do some appointments and 'WWA' which I do, I answer the calls and I also undertake online courses to help build my cv. Any advice on what I can do here? I'm so stressed now.  

Maybe you need to try to explain to the work coach that her actions are having a negative effect on you and explain why.
It sounds like she might be unaware of autism so it might give her a chance to learn something.
If she refuses to co operate you could complain to her manager.
You don't need to allow anyone to make your life hell so don't worry the experts on here will help you 

p29048

honestjon said:

p29048 said:

I have been on LCW for 4 years. 
I suffer with severe agoraphobia and anxiety, and suspected autism which I am still waiting for an assessment 3 years later.

I was having appointments with a lovely work coach every so often for most of this time and she was really calming and helped me a lot. These appointments with her then suddenly and without warning stopped. I didn't receive any other contact or any other appointments for over a year. Suddenly this month a new appt came up with a brand new work coach. I spoke with her over the phone and I instantly was upset and not liking the vibes from her. She was questioning me a lot, such as asking why I haven't chased up my autism diagnosis as 3 years is 'such a long time' and questioning if I go to the hairdressers and things like that. She then tells me I will now need to attend 30 min appointments every two weeks, and they will need to start being on video call. I'm now back to square one being incredibly stressed and anxious again. Sudden changes like this really mess with my state of mind and I just don't know what to do. I can tell this new coach is going to make my life hell. I felt instantly off put by her. Any advice for what I can do here? I am also aware on LCW you have to do some appointments and 'WWA' which I do, I answer the calls and I also undertake online courses to help build my cv. Any advice on what I can do here? I'm so stressed now.  

Maybe you need to try to explain to the work coach that her actions are having a negative effect on you and explain why.
It sounds like she might be unaware of autism so it might give her a chance to learn something.
If she refuses to co operate you could complain to her manager.
You don't need to allow anyone to make your life hell so don't worry the experts on here will help you 

Thanks honestjon. 

I have messaged this work coach via the journal to tell her this sudden change has really made me very anxious and to allow me some time. I also said along the lines of 'if possible to be allowed some extra time to calm my nerves and delay my appt, or switch back to a familiar work coach' I'm worried that may have been a bad idea to say and will only cause more issues and make things awkward. I only had a call with her yesterday and she booked another one for next Thursday to go over commitments and other things. Its marked in the journal as 'Work coach support : Health appointment' I'm just so stressed out now. I also feel another WCA will be looming, since its been so long. Ugh, If only I could have a normal brain.