Hello! I am a 31 year old Carer looking after my 32 year old Mentally Disabled Husband. We currently live in a 3 bed house with my mother who is the main tenant, we claim the other 2 bedrooms with permission from the HA we are with.
My mother recently has expressed desire to move out, either through swapping or just giving the house up and moving in with her long term partner. If she does this she is going to leave us homeless and this has doubled previous tension between all of us, as she has had trouble with debts, evictions and bailiffs in the past, It has left us bOth nervous wrecks as we panic if someone knocks on the door incase it is for my mother.
My partner has said recently that if we are going to have to move, he would like to go back to his home town, in a different district as his mother is of ill health and needs help and he an only child.
I tried last year to get on the housing there, but my husband does not have any kind of mental health help, OTs or a social care assessment, they make him scared, nervous and paranoid, so our application was not successful. He has said lately that he would try his best to get mental health help to show how the housing situation we live in does not help him mentally and causes him alot of distress but we don't know where to start, we went to his GP who referred us somewhere else, but they then the referral sent us somewhere else and it's just a waiting game at the moment and since my mother hasn't actually given us a time period, we can't claim homelessness.
This whole situation is highly distressing for my husband and its just getting worse as he has always hated where we live as it is loud, busy and he has no where he can relax.
Does anyone have any idea where I can start? Due to the housing situation I can't claim housing element or DHP for a rent deposit on a private rental.
