Can't make my sister's wedding

sparkleapril

Hi, everyone

Just wanted some advice,

My sister is getting married in August and wanted me to be her best woman.

I am disabled, I am in a wheelchair and due my baby a week before her wedding. So I told her I hope she has a beautiful wedding but I won't be there.

My sister has continued to be horrible with her words.

My sister lives 5 hours away.

sparkleapril

@MeMia

sparkleapril

Yeah I hope so, cause I feel bad I can't go and she is making me feel more that way.

My sister said if I ever get married she isn't coming.

She hasn't visited me while I have been so ill.

We are meant to be close sisters.

@woodbine

Rachel_Scope

Hi @sparkleapril.

First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy (I'm pregnant too 😊). Not long until you'll meet them! How have you found the pregnancy?

I'm so sorry to hear about the issues with your sister. Weddings can be such a stressful and emotional time and cause people to say things they don't really mean. It's wonderful that she asked you to be her best woman but such a shame that it just isn't possible. Have you tried to have a gentle conversation about it with her, or is that just not possible at this point?

sparkleapril

Hi @Rachel_Scope

Awwwwwwww congratulations too. How far along are you?

I am 33 weeks today. I have a scan this afternoon to check on the weight of baby and to see if the fuild hasn't increased. Also got to start to having injections to prevent blood clots with me being in a wheelchair.

I found this pregnancy fine and this will be my fourth child.

I was suffering domestic abuse from my ex partner but I ended that relationship with him in January that's the only stress I have had really with my Anxiety. The police are dealing with him.

As for my sister I have tried to talk to her multiple times and she is not listening. She knows I am in hospital today and she hasn't messaged me, she messaged me last night but it was all about her and her wedding.

sparkleapril

a@R

sparkleapril

How have you found your pregnancy?

Rachel_Scope

Thank you 😊 I'm only 15 weeks, due on Christmas Eve!! I hope the scan goes well, let us know.

Your fourth child!? Wow, you're Wonder Woman 💪 I have a teenage son who luckily hasn't been too badly affected by his hormones (yet) and is still happy to talk to me 😂

Well done leaving your abusive partner. That must have been so difficult.

Sorry your sister isn't listening to you. Hopefully she'll speak to you properly soon so you can get things sorted.

sparkleapril

My scan went well yesterday 🥰

Got another one in two weeks.

sparkleapril

Awwwwwwww a Christmas baby Xx

Yeah my oldest daughter had moods but she is alot better now and grown up. But I have another teenager daughter, she is a good helper bless her.

I had to leave my ex abusive partner because I had to put my self and children first.

Yeah there is no talking to my sister at the moment she still thinks I am going to her wedding she is not taking no for an answer.

My sister has been distant since I told her I was pregnant and won't be going to her wedding.

She hasn't asked how I am doing or about the pregnancy.

I can't go due to expenses, and I am not willing to travel 5 hours with a new baby in a wheelchair and with 3 other children.

It has really upset me cause we was meant to be close but she has been so horrible.

Rachel_Scope

Morning 😊

I'm so glad your scan went well. How's your weekend been? We had a tiny bit of sunshine but it's full-on rain today.

Any developments with your sister? I'm sure eventually this will all be sorted, I just hope it's sooner rather than later as it's putting so much stress on you.

sparkleapril

Hi @Rachel_Scope

sparkleapril

My weekend was a nice quiet one thank you.

As for my sister she hasn't really bothered.

I am just gonna let her get on with it, she knows my situation

I haven't fell out with her but untill she can be nice then I will speak to her. Another family member said she is jealous of me having another baby. I don't know how true that is but it makes sense why she is being distant. So it may not just be I am going to her wedding.

Sandy_123

Congratulations both on your pregnancies my daughter in law is expecting too

sparkleapril

Thank you @Sandy_123

Only got 5 weeks left

sparkleapril

Awwwwwwww how lovely, so you will have a beautiful grandchild soon Xx @Sandy_123

Sandy_123

Awww 5 weeks that will soon go by. Is it your 1st child?

sparkleapril

My fourth child

Sandy_123

Oh wow you'll have some little helpers. good luck with everything it's my daughter in law's 4th too

Rachel_Scope

Morning @sparkleapril 😊

I'm glad your weekend was nice and quiet. That might be for the best that you leave her to it, then she can come to you when she's ready. I wonder if that jealousy is playing into things, if it's true. I have hope it will be sorted soon and you can both move on.

Thank you @Sandy_123 😊 I've got quite a way to go yet with my pregnancy. Must say I'm a bit jealous of @sparkleapril as she gets to meet her little one in 5 weeks 😉

Sandy_123

@Rachel_Scope you will be surprised how fast it will go. I've started doing a baby hamper for my daughter in law. Going to put nappies, vests, bibs. Sleeping suits. Baby shampoos, wipes, dummies, and all things baby lol. She's having a girl.