Living with someone marriage

sunshinebear
sunshinebear Online Community Member Posts: 3 Listener

I’m disabled who lives independently and in love with my disabled partner who lives in supportive living. We’ve been engaged for several months and together 18mth before that.

We want to live together and we nobody is supporting my partner to make this happen.

ie no one is helping him access his money to plan the wedding or talking to us / him about to practically move out


also when he’s stayed at my home for more than 2 days he gets told he’s not allowed and can lose his supported living and if he’s not home by 10pm he’s told he has to be yet they say it’s not a curfew.


Comments

  • surfygoose
    surfygoose Online Community Member Posts: 500 Empowering

    Does he have a social worker and / or an advocate he can speak to about his wishes to move in with you?

    Not knowing his support needs I don’t know if there are issues around sorting out new care arrangements for him, like if he’s sharing support hours with others but would need funding for a one to one carer if he moved?

    Does he have capacity to manage his own finances or is there a power of attorney or guardianship in place to help him?

    It sounds like everyone involved needs to get together for a meeting?

  • sunshinebear
    sunshinebear Online Community Member Posts: 3 Listener

    yes he needs a care package sorting. But not live in care.

    And no he doesn’t have capacity has a deputy to manage his finances.

    He hasn’t the contact details for a sw and no advocate and is shy to make calls emails etc so it’s slow progress as he’s waiting for others to help and it’s not always successful.


    I agree we need to find a way for everyone to get together