hi all.
I am diagnosed autistic- I am fairly high masking and people usually forget I’m autistic or just presume I’m ‘odd’
TLDR: I was ‘autistic’ in a conversation and now being frozen out and getting official emails making me fear for my job.
I’ve been in the workplace a year, had a great relationship with my boss (extended to friendship), been promoted and even in discussions to relocate this year. I spent 2 weeks in the new office and was told repeatedly what a great 2 weeks it was and how brilliantly I did and how they can’t wait to get me back permanently.
On my last day, as I was trying to finish up an employee approached me about a mistake she’d made. I said that it didn’t matter now (was no fixing it) and she kept pushing, she was in my personal space and really not letting go. She called me blunt again. I got up and left, and ended up not going to my leaving dinner because of her.
She complained and the manager had decided that I was at fault before even speaking to me.
I was told I was unprofessional and by not going to the meal, I made her feel bad (I didn’t tell anyone why I didn’t go- they all knew I didn’t want to go anyway due to my social issues)
we had a meeting I raised my issues, particularly that my manager had already decided I was in the wrong before even speaking to me. I raised that I was truthful and not rude or disrespectful and left to excuse myself from an uncomfortable situation. I emphasised that my autism means sometimes I don’t communicate in the way others expect. I also highlighted I had no service dog with me, was 2 weeks out of the country in a strange place and was rushing to get finished to go to a meal I didn’t want to go to. My stress levels were high.
since the meeting my manager has not spoken to me (we called 2-3 times a day and teams consistently) if she wants to ask me to do anything she puts it in the group chat.
I asked to speak to her Thursday and expressed my concerns and she told me I was over thinking it. But since Thurs still no real contact
Yesterday I got an email expressing how upset and unhappy she was that I didn’t feel like she supported me (which was not what I said) and listed all she did including allowances she made for my autism previously (one that was actually anything to do with autism - allowing me to miss a site visit as my service dog was unwell) and that she can refer me to OH if I want
she then asks me to train the new person on all my specific tasks.
The whole email reads like a preparation to sack me - covering her backside to say she did everything to help me.
What do I do? I’m being frozen out and cannot argue against it and now fear for my job, and I’m moving in 8 weeks so can’t risk being unemployed
10 days ago I was the best thing since sliced bread. Now? I’m completely alone.
I can’t go to hr as she is hr
