Loneliness

Mox
Mox Community member Posts: 8 Listener
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Hi All , I was just wondering how do you deal with the the days when you feel lonely ?.

Mox

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  • Biblioklept
    Biblioklept Community member Posts: 5,160 Championing

    I remind myself that I might feel better tomorrow. Loneliness really gets to me sometimes but I also know I find people too much sometimes and I quite enjoy my own company.

    I talk to people online a lot and that helps, especially if you can find people you can open up to and be more honest with ❤️

  • AKR
    AKR Community member Posts: 151 Empowering

    I feel lonely frequently - daily actually. I divorced from my first wife in 2019. I remarried in 2020 to a caring, kind hearted woman I knew from my early career who I had always loved. The marriage broke down just before our 4th wedding anniversary and I am going through divorce yet again which will be finalised in the near future. It saddens me, especially because my deteriorating mental health symptoms were a big contributing factor. I am heartbroken in all honesty - I had wanted to be a part of her life and her kids, and grandchild's lives for the rest of my life. I wanted to help them, care for them and protect them. That has gone now and I feel like an abject failure, like I have completely lost my purpose in life. Those feelings all collide when I get the loneliness pangs and they are intense but I know I have to find a new purpose, and set new goals. I meditate and reflect knowing I have to confront all the feelings that make me feel deeply sorrowful in order to rebuild, grow and try to be the best version of myself for the remainder of my life. I am only 51 years old so there is in all likelihood a long way to go. I know I will always love my wife and that part of it is really challenging to deal with. However, it is part of my journey and I have to constantly remind myself I have to keep striving, be easy on myself and remember to be true to myself. I can feel settled in my own company, not all the time but I know a sense of ease will become the norm if I am patient.

  • luvpink
    luvpink Community member Posts: 212 Empowering

  • luvpink
    luvpink Community member Posts: 212 Empowering

    @AKR

    I do get lonely and I feel isolated a lot due to not being able to get out as much as I would like to due to health issues.

    Some days are so long and boring but I listen to a music chanel, watch TV and dvd's.

    Its really hard at times.

    I split from my husband three and a half years ago and we never had any contact with each other for seven months.

    I felt relieved to have left a dead marriage and during covid lock down it was most awful being trapped in a small flat with nowhere else to go.

    I used to dread him coming home from work because of the mental and controlling abuse he inflicted upon me.

    I eventually managed to find a flat and I left him.

    We have since reunited as friends and we actually get along better now than when we were living together, although deep down I can never forgive his bad treatment towards me.

    I have no interest in ever meeting anyone else because I can close my door and have piece of mind now and I will never ever endure being treated like that again.

    He and I are now friends/companions.

    Its better than us both being lonely.

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