Date night
Hey everyone having better day. Trying to do better also putting effort to have couple time away from people and date night any ideas how we can a bit of intimacy between me and my partner both have 24hr care cerebral Palsy spastic quadriplegia full time wheelchair users
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Hello @beadles93!
Would a movie marathon be a nice date night for you both? Get some of your favourite snacks in and snuggle down somewhere soft under a blanket. I've done movie marathons with my partner of films that are so bad they're good and that can be fun, but it's not to everyone's taste!
You could watch whatever you're into, or even have themed nights where you match the snacks to the film 😊
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@Rosie_Scope that is wonderful idea however we both full-time electric wheelchair user and or hoisted so can't sit and cuddle together
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Hi @beadles93
Have you thought about having a conversation with your support staff to see if they would put you on the bed together so that you can hug each other?
If that is something you would be comfortable with, I would suggest asking the staff that you are most relaxed with.
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@Richard_Scope yes I have. This hasvm happened before with previous P.A's of mines. We just have to carefully as his carers are a company. They have very different rules
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@beadles93 your partner's carers cannot prevent him from having a romantic life.
Here is some information that might be useful for the more reluctant staff:
Advice to Health Professionals
If you feel ill-equipped to discuss sex with clients, or feel insure about initiating discussions, then visit and talk to your line manager.
We recommend “Supporting Disabled People with their Sexual Lives – A Clear Guide for Health and Social Care Professionals” Tuppy Owens and Claire de Than (2015) Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
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Thank you @Richard_Scope but I can't see it helping I complained few years ago about member of staff who said if we staying in same bedroom on holiday she would drive straight home! Nothing was done. It was done to my carer and her partner and ex carer of my partner to puts us in bed together for few hours.
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thats awful for you That carers refuse. Have you thought of having a meeting with the care agency management and talk this through?
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@Sandy_123 yeah I did. i told my company owner that it was safeguarding issue
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Hopefully you get answers that you want
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Thank you I to know how it can be safeguarding when we both adults and sound of mine
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