Feeling like a burden to my partner

wobblyone

I’m currently in a relationship we split a few years ago but got back together. I feel so exhausted trying to do anything as I always need to plan and research as some things are no possible for me to do. I feel like a burden in general and feel like giving up as I cannot really see what use I am to my partner. I feel like a burden to I others. I don’t drive and my mobility isn’t great. I cost me a fortune in transportation. I’m too embarrassed to take my mobility scooter sometimes and when I do it’s awakward to go some places.

I’m wondering if it might be best to end the relationship and my partner could find someone better. How do others manage?

Bluebell21

Hi @wobblyone please do not end the relationship because you do not feel good enough. You are good enough, and you are not a burden. Ask yourself "are you happy with your partner" ? Are you happier with them or would you be happier without them? It has to be what is best for you. They must be happy being with you, perhaps you just need a bit more time to adjust to being in a relationship again.

Sandy_123

Hi @wobblyone welcome sorry you are feeling down. It's easy to feel that way sometimes

wobblyone

Thanks for the replies @Bluebell21 and @Sandy_123

I think it’s just the constant hard work of practical things and watching every penny just to spend time together. I rarely get to see other friends as I’m so tired or due to costs and I often can’t go out or do any other social activities with anyone else.

I feel very down at the moment but it’s hard to have this conversation with anyone as feeling positive doesn’t make my body work better. It’s not just in my mind. It’s like the combination of all the smaller things that are difficult more than the obvious larger issues.

My partner says it’s okay but I’m feeling more hopeless daily.

I think I’m better off alone and just giving up as my partner often doesn’t get the things that are challenging so might not really realise what I’m saying long term.

Sandy_123

It does help to get things off your chest and the forum is good for getting support, it might be worth taking some time to talk to your partner about how you feel and see how that goes

Bluebell21

Hi @wobblyone If you would find it difficult to approach how you are feeling with your partner could you perhaps write down what you want to say perhaps by text or email and send it to your partner and then have a discussion.

You can talk on the forum as no one knows who you are and we do not judge any member. Please take care of yourself.

wobblyone

Thanks for all the replies. I think I’m becoming a bit depressed and overthinking everything. My partner is patient with me. I’m just trying to think more positively which is harder to do than it is to say.

Rachel_Scope

Hi @wobblyone how are you feeling today? It's very hard to think positively when we're feeling depressed and overthinking so be kind to yourself. Just try your best.

wobblyone

it is more my situation that has been getting me down. My physical health hasn’t been great and so I am not able to do the things I’d like to do. The NHS is nearly non existent and disorganised so I just accept the fact I have to get on with it. I know mental health is important but I haven’t imagined my physical health issues and possitive thinking won’t wish them away. I don’t like the fact my partner has to do so much for me.