Going to drop out of my course

Aphrodite_Persephone
Aphrodite_Persephone Online Community Member Posts: 36 Connected
in Education and skills

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia 5 years ago and recently returned to education as I was hoping to go back into the workforce but obviously can't return to my previously physically demanding job in healthcare so found an alternative which is a desk job but I need to retrain. Anyway I started the course in September, only three evenings a week but I'm struggling due to memory issues and also my constant pain, which I've had the last two weeks off as I can't move. So looks like I may have to quit the course and it's made me think would I even be able to work a job, even a desk one because my pain just keeps getting worse each year. I think it's time to accept my reality, maybe overdoing it and constantly pushing myself is doing more harm than good for my body and disability. I'm 40 and didn't think my life would come to this but I'm even struggling moving around at home.

Another option is self study at home, then book and sit the exams independently but I was really enjoying the social aspect as I don't see anyone apart from my kids and pets.

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  • durhamjaide2001
    durhamjaide2001 Scope Member Posts: 12,505 Championing

    I would say he very careful with this and think about your opinions because I did this a few years back and now I don't regret but in a few year's time I might.

  • SarahT41
    SarahT41 Scope Member Posts: 29 Contributor

    I would say to be honest with your course tutor/provider, explain your situation and they might be able to come up with a solution you've not even considered. You say it's only 3 evenings a week, but that is actually quite a lot if before you were doing none at all. They might consider a hybrid arrangement, some in person, some from home. You've got nothing to lose in asking what's possible. One of the good things about COVID is it forced more home study options to be available.

    Another option is to find a remote course that you can do at your own pace, in bed, electric blanket on, as many breaks as you need etc... and vow to find something social that is just for you to enjoy. Rather than 3 evenings out a week where you're struggling to keep up, keep the studying in an environment you can optimise for your needs at home, and maybe 1 evening out for the social aspect, whatever that is.

    Please don't put yourself down though - you've done really well to start, and that is the hardest part.

    One last thing, because I'm not sure what aspect of healthcare you were working in - but if its still something you have an interest in, your knowledge and skills may be possible to put to use in an unconventional way. There's an OT called Jo Southall whose webinar I've attended who practices privately entirely remotely, and her experience with chronic illness is an asset, rather than a disadvantage. Of course if you are interested in trying something new, then fine, but if you still want to stay in healthcare in some way don't rule it out!

  • Aphrodite_Persephone
    Aphrodite_Persephone Online Community Member Posts: 36 Connected

    Hi @durhamjaide2001 and @SarahT41 there is another college that offers the same course but as a mixture of online and in class (so hybrid) that starts in September so I'm hoping to return back to study maybe with them. It's been such a struggle and I just want to still be able to do something with my life.

  • SarahT41
    SarahT41 Scope Member Posts: 29 Contributor

    FInd out as much as you can before you make any final decisions but find what works for you, rather than exhausting yourself trying to fit in to what you think you should be doing. It doesn't matter how you get there. You're doing so much better than you think, so please don't beat yourself up about it.

  • Mary_Scope
    Mary_Scope Posts: 252 Scope Online Community Children and Family Specialists
    edited December 3

    Hi Aphrodite_Persephone


    Is there a Disabled Students Service at your college? Some colleges and most higher education places have them, if so then it is definitely worth having a chat with an adviser about your situation as they should be able to chat to you about your options and any adjustments you may need.

    There is also the Disabled Students Helpline | Disability Rights UK which can be a helpful place to contact for specialist information related to disability and education

    Hope that was helpful, please reach out if you have anymore questions or would like further support


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