Is there a difference between how I communicate anxiety to my mum and how my sister communicates it?

Katiedimelow20

What is the reason for my differing experiences when I communicate my anxiety emotions to my mom but have a completely different experience when my younger sister expresses her anxiety emotions to mum & dad ? I always did had issue with my mum and i don't think she understand much about my emotion about anxiety and i knew that i had did has the emotion anxiety after covid and during covid . Hi, is has be rough night . Start of night for okay for going on bus to different town then my town . did had did something to eat and did drink a beer . after when in a Irish pub was okay but did noticed increased anxiety and it was very busy and has push in to get anywhere to get pass . During my visit to the toilets area in the Irish pub, my mother told me not to feel anxious and nothing would happen to me. My anxiety was heightened by that experience, and I felt even more upset after talking to my mum. When we went to another pub that one Christmas song came and my mum went too far and made me even a made uncomfortable. As still feeling upset and anxious. My younger sister did try to chat with me and said are you okay and said bit okay. On the way back home on the bus I did use one of my apps on my Google Pixel watch app and it was called Breathe. While on the bus my younger sister was expressing herself about her own anxiety and I did hear mum say let her express herself from younger sister chatting with dad. I did feel upset and a bit annoyed. I have not been diagnosed yet. Ijust feel a bit better but not much. if i did make a mistake about on here and i'm sorry . I been feeling let out from one of the discussions as how is your day going with some of the users .

Holly_Scope

Hi @Katiedimelow20 I hope you're feeling ok today?

This is a difficult one. I struggle with anxiety too so I get it. Also, I'm the oldest child - I have 4 younger brothers. My Mum definitely favours my youngest brother! I think it's a Mum thing. They do tend to have a soft spot for the youngest child in my experience. 😅

I get what your saying with the anxiety. Somebody telling you "not to be anxious" doesn't help, and can often makes it worse. They're probably trying to help, and think they are but just aren't feeling what you're feeling. Have you reached out to your doctors for some advice and support with managing your anxiety?

Katiedimelow20

thanks you for suggest I'm not reach out to my doctors for supports and advice for managing Anxiety yet since i had to go to with mum that also comes with me to doctors and as well calling doctors and getting appointment and i understand about trying to help but wasn't working with anxious. i did had group therapy but was okay but didn't help . did has NHS therapy but didn't work that well . i did used one my apps called breathe on my google pixel watch 2 . that did help me . as well of inside out 2 did help me . I'm got older sisters as well of youngest sisters .

Holly_Scope

Hi @Katiedimelow20 no problem. They have been with me in the past when I've spoken with them about my anxiety so I hope it's helpful to you. Have you asked your Mum to help with booking and attending the doctors?

Please let us know how you get on.

Best wishes,

Holly.

Katiedimelow20

nope I'm not ask my mum to help me with booking and attending the doctors and my mum does take while when i did ask before about going to doctors . then my mum forget about my issue and anxiety . get seem to get word out for asking help with my mum . one apps called breathe app on my google pixel watch 2 has help me . as well of one of inside out 2 film did help me to . not sure if i can get doctor appointment at moment . around December and sometimes fall/autumn increased anxiousness . if i can anything out and ask mum and to make stick to her own brain . I'm not sure what i did experience when i did walk up one of steep stairs in my youngest sisters renting house to used the toilets . I did noticed that i saw that my was my hands were shaky and heartbeat did increased did i was thinking about inside out 2 and did did try and focus and did deep breathe after i calm down and did did counting down the steep stairs to . did see my heartrate did go up on my one of my oldest google pixel watch on at the time .

surfygoose

I agree with you that the Inside Out films are very helpful.