Emotionally Torn

Cobrinha10
Cobrinha10 Community Member Posts: 10 Listener
in Relationships

I have a girlfriend who I will have been with for 5 years next week. She’s kind and caring and has a good heart. We moved out of her mum’s house and into our own house almost a year ago now and while she’s quiet I feel like she makes the decisions. She has been on two holidays while we’ve been here, she goes out for food and to the cinema with friends whenever she wants, if she wants us to do something then she will ask, it feels like it’s all on her terms.


As far as physically we don’t go nowhere near each other it just doesn’t happen. I love her to bits but I find myself dreading our days more and more just sitting on the sofa on our phones.

The only thing that excites me is the idea of speaking to a couple of girls from my past, not because I want them, nothing would happen I would just like to talk go through past memories and smile.


Thank you for reading.

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  • Albus_Alumni
    Albus_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 11,373 Championing


    I'd agree with Bluebell here @Cobrinha10 you do need to be speaking to your partner about this instead of keeping it bottled up. That just leads to resentment and bad feelings. Hopefully if you talk things through sensibly, then you can get excited about the relationship again. 😊

  • Cobrinha10
    Cobrinha10 Community Member Posts: 10 Listener

    The problem is i’m tempted to speak to my old female friends from the past just for fun. I have no intentions on flirting or getting with them, but my girlfriend has found her sources of happiness and I would like to speak to mine except it’s more difficult because I’m in a long term relationship.

  • Cobrinha10
    Cobrinha10 Community Member Posts: 10 Listener

    i appreciate the comments it’s so kind to know there are other people in the world just purely wanting to help.


    I’m still nervous what to do but this is such a helpful community that care for each other I appreciate each and everyone of you.

  • Emmaelliott22
    Emmaelliott22 Community Member Posts: 3 Listener

    I don't no if my partner is cheating

  • Emmaelliott22
    Emmaelliott22 Community Member Posts: 3 Listener
  • Holly_Alumni
    Holly_Alumni Scope alumni Posts: 6,534 Championing

    Hi @Emmaelliott22 I'm so sorry, that must be very worrying. Is there something in particular that's happening which makes you think they might be?

  • craigmack903
    craigmack903 Community Member Posts: 54 Connected

    No one wants be because my drinking so women are not interested also most women want to get married start a family but I dont want that im a very selfish person and I dont know how to change it I dont seem to care about anyone or anything just cold hearted and think of myself only my autism makes this hard to stop

  • Stellar
    Stellar Community Member Posts: 587 Trailblazing

    you should make your own thread Craig instead of bumping an old one with your own situation (and the reasn why women wnt date it you because you need help with your drinking).

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