How to cope when you feel you’re too much

south37
south37 Community Member Posts: 9 Listener
in Mental health and wellbeing

How do others manage, or what helps you get through when you feel your needs are seen as too much by others?

I’ve been trying to get support, but even support organisations have been unable, or unwilling, to provide the adjustments I need to access their support.

I know my needs are great, but I can’t help that. I’ve tried for many years to suppress them, but that ends up affecting me and I burn out and my needs become greater still. And now, I just cannot make myself ‘perform’ or jump through the hoops as I find them genuinely difficult, and often impossible to.

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  • dolfrog
    dolfrog Community Member Posts: 654 Trailblazing

    I know how you feel. I have similar problems related to my Auditory Processing Disorder (APD). All of my famly now have a clinical diagnosis of this lifelong disability, but we are still unable to find local NHS provided support we need, from the UK Medical Research Council recomended multi-discipline support team (Audiologist, Speech and Language Pathologist, and psychologist)

  • south37
    south37 Community Member Posts: 9 Listener

    @dolfrog it’s so demoralising isn’t it?
    The support is supposedly there, but accessing it makes it feel as though it’s on another continent or is available only if you know the secret code.
    I hope you find and are able to get the support you all need.

  • Kavita
    Kavita Community Member Posts: 1 Listener

    I'm sorry you're going through this. It must be incredibly frustrating to keep asking for help and still feel unheard.

    Your needs are not "too much." They are real, and they matter. The fact that pushing them aside led to burnout shows that ignoring them was never a sustainable solution.

    Please try not to judge yourself by what others can or cannot accommodate. A service struggling to meet your needs does not mean you are asking for too much. You deserve support that is accessible and works for you.

    Be kind to yourself. You're carrying a lot, and it sounds like you've been doing your best for a very long time.

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