Young family members
I have two grandchildren (16 & 20) who are in my opinion unemployable. Both receive PIP for anxiety and depression. Both are not interested in starting the work cycle. One asked if working meant 8 hours a day - 5 days a week.
Both are quite happy to just enjoy their leisure time with their benefit income being topped up by their parents at the rate of an additional £1000 per month for each of them.
Has anybody any ideas on how they can be motivated.
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Sorry to hear that, and I sincerely hope PM Burnham has the stomach to do what needs doing. I have personally been laughed at for bring a mug, that is going to work each day when I was still able to do so.
A swift dose of reality is what's needed, i'm afraid!
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In the current society, I doubt there's much to motivate anyone.
It sounds like their parents giving them £1000 a month isn't helping though. What sort of leisure activities do they spend the money on? Maybe they'd be interested in a job that is already close to their interests?
I don't think many people do 9 to 5 any more, those days are gone. Working times are much more flexible nowadays.
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Grandson spends most of his money on gaming spending all night and sleeping during the day and granddaughter on her horse and everything that goes with it.
Grandson says he would work if he liked what he was doing, liked others at work with a max of 8 hours a week 'as he has other things in his life'.
Granddaughter says that she does not have the time to work.
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Absolutely terrible, talk about spoilt! I can't say what I really think, and sorry you have to witness this travesty.
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That is a bit sad to read.
There are plenty of jobs involving horses, so there is at least a chance of the granddaughter finding something she likes that will also pay the bills.
Gaming is big business but there aren't as many jobs in gaming as people think. I wonder what the 'other things' are in his life. Personally I find it a daily battle to try to dispose of the one thousand minutes between getting up and getting back into bed each day. If those people are managing to fill their day without work, and don't currently need the money, then I don't think there will be anything to motivate them into work at the moment. It will hit them hard if their parents stop providing money for any reason though.
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Sounds like they need something to help spark their interest in having a life, surely they can't truly be happy like that?? But also if you think of them as unemployable, I imagine any employers will too!
The £1000 a month from their parents probably won't be helping things
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you need to start by understanding that their attitudes are, to an extent, a rational response.
- the world of work has changed significantly since you were first their age. Try looking for a job yourself now. you'll find a lot of what worked for you (like going into shops and handing them your CV directly, a simple one-stage interview) is no longer valid advice for finding work.
- Moreover, young people their age are increasingly concluding work isn't worth it, and frankly given the world they're inheriting, they're correct to do so. your grandchildren will likely never own a home like you likely do, as wages are far too low and homes far too expensive.
- disability and mental illness are real things, and likely also contribute to their lack of motivation. it sounds to me like you do not believe your grandchildren are legitimately disabled, and they can tell you're judging them. for one, your grandson sounds like he's addicted to video games to cope with his anxiety and depression about moving into the adulthood.
your grandkids need compassion and understanding, not judgement and stripping money away under the guise of "motivation."
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if she genuinely wants to quit than she should be allowed to without fearing judgemental comments from people who claim to love her.
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What are you talking about? Not everyone is a quitter. She is now about to start her masters, and still manages to work shifts in a supermarket. Most young people are getting on with their lives, not wallowing in self pity.
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