Young family members

Sorry to hear that, and I sincerely hope PM Burnham has the stomach to do what needs doing. I have personally been laughed at for bring a mug, that is going to work each day when I was still able to do so.

A swift dose of reality is what's needed, i'm afraid!

That is a bit sad to read.

There are plenty of jobs involving horses, so there is at least a chance of the granddaughter finding something she likes that will also pay the bills.

Gaming is big business but there aren't as many jobs in gaming as people think. I wonder what the 'other things' are in his life. Personally I find it a daily battle to try to dispose of the one thousand minutes between getting up and getting back into bed each day. If those people are managing to fill their day without work, and don't currently need the money, then I don't think there will be anything to motivate them into work at the moment. It will hit them hard if their parents stop providing money for any reason though.

you need to start by understanding that their attitudes are, to an extent, a rational response.

• the world of work has changed significantly since you were first their age. Try looking for a job yourself now. you'll find a lot of what worked for you (like going into shops and handing them your CV directly, a simple one-stage interview) is no longer valid advice for finding work.
• Moreover, young people their age are increasingly concluding work isn't worth it, and frankly given the world they're inheriting, they're correct to do so. your grandchildren will likely never own a home like you likely do, as wages are far too low and homes far too expensive.
• disability and mental illness are real things, and likely also contribute to their lack of motivation. it sounds to me like you do not believe your grandchildren are legitimately disabled, and they can tell you're judging them. for one, your grandson sounds like he's addicted to video games to cope with his anxiety and depression about moving into the adulthood.

your grandkids need compassion and understanding, not judgement and stripping money away under the guise of "motivation."

if she genuinely wants to quit than she should be allowed to without fearing judgemental comments from people who claim to love her.

nobody needs to work to "support the economy" by "paying tax." all of that's a myth pushed by the billionaire class to justify retaining their extortionate wealth for personal gain.

And frankly, life should be enjoyed and not full of avoidable pain and suffering. it's likely they see the world of work as a land of pain of suffering, in part because of the systemic issues i've mentioned. there is no real incentive to work in the UK if at all possible.

Sara's advice on finding a mentor for them is a good idea, as there are good opportunities out there. as they're under 25, youth services will be available to them.