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Has anyone any suggestions for coping with a learning disabled 10 year old boy, who is wanting to establish his independence by using the men's toilet? He doesn't want to come to the ladies with me (and if he does now we get mucky looks from people who think he's too old to be there) and as he doesn't have physical disabilities I feel bad using the disabled toilet. But for several reasons I'm uncomfortable sending him alone to the mens. If we're somewhere quiet I do, and if my partners there its not an issue as he can take him. However my son needs reminders to wipe, flush and wash hands and will talk to absolutely anyone. He gets really angry and says I'm making him into a baby if I insist he comes with me. In busy places I do insist, and put up with the tantrum, explaining its to keep him safe. In quieter places I let him go, often hovering outside the mens loos in a panic until he comes back. Am I over paranoid or am I doing the right thing? Maybe he does need more independence, but I'm not sure public loos is the safest place to get it?