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My little girl is really happy and chilled, and she loves making sounds.

One of her favourite sounds can only really be described as a roar!

When we are out, she is happy roaring away in her buggy, and people keep saying things like 'oh dear, someone's not happy today'

I know they are trying to be nice, but apart from roaring too, I am not sure how to keep answering them!!


  • JgeekJgeek Member Posts: 68
    Hey I see this is a problem, growing up with cp its been an ongoing question, its very annoying sometimes when people look or comment but its human nature to inquire about what's not the norm, the question is do we try & aspire to be the 'norm' or just think that's pandering. I think there's a happy medium, I'm not sure what your daughters speech is like but its good she's experimenting with sound but perhaps you could encourage calmer noises, simple tunes or nursery rhymes singing or just for her to listen to sometimes helps, this may drive you mad of course! Take care :-)
  • htlcyhtlcy Member Posts: 133 Pioneering
    Hi there Blue Frog :-) thanks for your comment. I can imagine it can be frustrating. Unfortunately I think a lot of the time people say things without thinking and it can be a real annoyance (it's happened to me with regards to equipment I use at home and out in the world and it really annoyed me!) If you feel like it you could maybe explain that isn't the case at all. Of course, no one has any right to assume they ought to know everything about your daughter's condition but it might help you to set them straight perhaps? It's a difficult one, though. I've been questioned about using a stick and wearing a splint and most of the time I try to answer as politely as possible. Of course, sometimes I really don't want to say anything at all and you have the right to react as you choose :-) I think it's fantastic that your daughter is experimenting with sounds like that! Especially if it makes her happy :-)
  • Blue FrogBlue Frog Member Posts: 373 Pioneering
    Thanks htlcy. It really helps being able to chat with people who have disabilities to get their perspective on things, and the main thing is my little girl is happy! She is making brilliant progress at the moment and has started making a lovely little 'oidy doidy' noise which I absolutely love!

    I didn't know whether to laugh or cry when the educational PSYCHOLOGIST came to see her a few weeks ago, and my little girl roared at her to say hello - and the psychologist replied 'oh dear, she doesn't sound very happy!'
  • DaniellesducksDaniellesducks Member Posts: 5
    "She's being a happy lion" big smile walk away
    I have said the same " some one not happy" but normally after a look on their face I can see I'm wrong. Most people can't so be patient and in your head pat them on the head
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