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I get so confused or bored trying to have a "normal" date

This discussion was created from comments split from: Hi, I'm Gill, I'm a full-time PSHE Specialist.
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Emma
The majority of people that I've gone out with, I met at my workplace. I just recently left my job, but I was working at a clothing boutique. I get asked out a lot because of my looks; and I tend to come off as flirtatious, when I'm only being friendly, which I can sometimes do too much. No one has ever asked "do you want to go on a date?", so I always assume that by going for coffee, or a drink, that's all they mean. Many times I've told people that I didn't think we were on a "date", or that I'm not at all interested in them, which usually backfires. When I am interested in them, and feel a physical attraction, I get nervous and would rather just skip to the point than try to converse or play hard to get. I also have realized that I have a problem with assuming that guys just want sex, so I don't feel the need to act a certain way, and I think that I'm doing them a favour by being aggressive. Many guys have appreciated it, I think, but I usually end up feeling like I've ruined it. Sometimes I just want to have sex, because I really don't know how to tell the person how I feel, and I hate playing games.
Secondly Gill, great advice - I agree with every word and where were you when I was 14? Had I know that then I could have saved myself about 20 years of heartache!