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Taliesen

I was sexually abused by adoptive father...mentally emotionally and physically abused by adoptive mother from 10 till I was 25yrs old....got put in to youth hostel at 25yrs of age for my own safety...5yrs ago got diagnosed with cptsd , eubpd, non epileptic attack disorder...saw a art therapist for 16months...who said I need deeper long term help so put in a referral which got lost...not one IDT will give me a therapist which is what I need as due to past I'm a self harmer with suicidal tendencies and actually follow through with it....all they say is your insightful and level headed your doing all the right things just keep doing it...theres either nothing we can do or nothing you need from us or nothing for us to offer as your too complexed...what do I have to do to get help...A&E are just as bad...no one actually listens to me they only see and hear what they want to see and hear.. dont know how much longer i can keep going on my own as a vulnerable adult who is also in middle of a crappy breakup that involves domestic emotional abuse...I swear that's all I'm destined for is abuse on one way or another...all I danm well want is just some bloody help...

Sorry for the rant but I'm so lost confused frustrated p*ssed off.

meymay93

I was a abuse all my family step father step brother and my mum  when I was back home and this uk as well as now effected my mental problem  some time get panic attact and if I go out alway make sure no one there I feel.they come on me kick me abuse in me I can't open  door even answering telephone 

Tori_Scope

Hi @meymay93 It's good to hear from you.

I'm sorry to hear that the abuse you've experienced has affected your mental health. I can only imagine how difficult it must be, so thanks for feeling as though you could reach out to us. I have a couple of questions, if that's okay?

Is the abuse you've mentioned recent, or is it something that happened in the past? 

Are you currently in the UK?

Are the people who've abused you currently in the UK? 

chiarieds

Hi @meymay93 - it's so lovely to hear from you again.    How are you and your daughter? Sending my very best wishes.

Ryanna

April2018mom said:

Today was a decent day. I took a complete break from job hunting and had a mini picnic in a local park. I also bought some new wine for a garden party this weekend. 

Good to hear you treated yourself to a break from job hunting... It's an exhausting process... Done this myself this year... It's been tough going!

Ryanna

Mary_B said:

During lockdown I have also found the Samaritans email service helpful as well especially when husband was in hospital 

Ooh that's interesting, so is it just an email chat rather than a phone chat? That sounds really good, I will have to look it up, thanks for sharing and really glad it has helped you.

Ryanna

@Teddybear12 big thanks for this, I will keep a note of this email address, really helpful thank you!

m_burrell82

There was a couple of guys who were ringing me, from the APCMH group I was going to before the crisis.  They are not now and seems they can't afford to bring the groups back.  All the Mental Health funding is going to Mind.  Mind no longer has a social group in Croydon. They were charging too much for things and users just went on to meetup.com groups.  I'm on those groups but could do with going to a group again that knows specifically about my kind of problems. Before the crisis, they experimented with user led groups - Imagine.  I don't think folk always had a decent welcome from them, so lets say that experiment didn't work.  I do voluntary at a Scope shop, but a social group I can go to, discuss things with others. Play some of my Table Top games, is what I really could do with.

Tori_Scope

I'm sorry to hear that your APCMH group has stopped now @m_burrell82. Have you tried speaking to your local Mind branch to see if they'd be willing to set up a social group again, perhaps with some input from attendees about how it could best be run? 

Martin1957

2 paces forward and 4 back I feel at the moment  I have so much **** going on in my body at the moment 2019 caudia Equina 2021 disclamectamy the 2 above the 3 they did in 2019 bladder and bowl problems due to the nerve damage 2019 unwell in hospital 2021 really unwell now found I have a heart problem  so on lhe list for spinal stimulation implant  york hospital waiting MRI on my heart york sending me to leeds for scan as york unable to do it on list for permanent catheter  on my bladder pinderfields as I was in the spinal unit  2019 and they have taken this treatment  back over this week getting more and more  mobility problems found by police 4 months ago in a distressed state 5 mental  health  sessions however  I now feel  I'm going backwards  so fast I honestly  do not know  how  much more I can take I don't  awarded pip march this year  gave me the lower level. Now i can hardly  walk hardly able to  stand not worked for nearly  12 months and now to top it all we now have  damp dark nights used up all of my savings  to live 
All I keep getting  told is things are going  to get better well I'm sorry but to me it's nearly  3 years and I'm virtually at the same point where I was Dec 2019 

Sunrise09

I don't no who I am anymore I haven't opened my carter's in five years I think I hate the way I am things are so bad at times I have to leave my flat iv had no gas for years not hot water no heating and it's all down to my mental health cuz the man in my head not let me all he shouts is boom boom I live on the 7th floor I don't go near the windows because when I'm not well all I hear in my head is jump so I stay away from them I really do hate this life.

Alex_Alumni

Hello @Martin1957 and thanks for reaching out, I can hear how frustrated and worried you are by things at the moment, it can be really tough going when we feel like we're only going backwards. Is this something you've spoken to loved ones or your GP about? 

It sounds like things are difficult day to day, do you feel as though you're getting enough support to manage everything? 

You've mentioned having some mental health sessions, was there anything which worked well from those that you could take away? 

If you feel your mobility is declining, have you been able to speak to your GP about a needs assessment referral?

For anyone struggling with their mental health, you are not alone, and there is support out there. 

You can call Samaritans on 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org if you prefer. The team of trained advisers can listen to you without judgement, and you don't need to be at crisis point to have a chat. 

You can also text "SHOUT" to 85258 at any time for free confidential support via text. 

The mental health charities Mind and Rethink have lots of useful resources for finding support, such as self-care tips, and a mental health and money advice service.

Scope also has a Disability Energy Support service, who may be able to support you with any cost of living worries. 

I hope this is useful for you @Martin1957. Let us know if you feel we can help support you further, and we'll do what we can to help

Alex

Alex_Alumni

@Sunrise09 well done for being so open and honest about how you're feeling at the moment, the man in your head sounds distressing, is this something your GP or other specialists are aware of? 

I wonder if you could tell me what you mean by carter's, just so that I understand more fully?

I haven't opened my carter's in five years

We'd like to help with how you're feeling as much as we are able to, so keep an eye out for an email from community@scope.org.uk a little later today. 

As a reminder, you can reach out for help both here and with other organisations if you're struggling.

There's Samaritans, call them on 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org if you prefer. You can also text "SHOUT" to 85258 at any time for free confidential support via text.

If you ever feel unsafe or in immediate danger, call 999 right away. 

The mental health charities Mind and Rethink have lots of useful resources for finding support, such as self-care tips for managing voices, and a mental health and money advice service.

Scope also has a Disability Energy Support service, who may be able to support you with any cost of living worries. 

Please do ask if you feel we can help support you, or if there's anything we've missed. We're here to support you   

Alex

Cher_Alumni

@Martin1957 I'm just checking in to see how you are getting on. It sounds like you have a heck of a lot on your plate at the minute, I'm so sorry it isn't better for you. I hope you managed to give @Alex_Scope 's post a read. Have you had any progress with your health? Do keep us updated so we can be of support.

FrankV

@harryc i feel your pain and being a male at 53 with anxiety and depression myself, I totally agree with your sentiments about being 'society's abandoned' and It's a disgrace that we cannot get the help we need in this day and age of 2023! 
Mental ill health needs to fall into the same category as CANCER, because it manifests itself in the brain and the longer i takes to get help, the more damage is done. prevention is better than cure - but that is not something the NHS is concerned with. My condition came about before COVID19, yet people who developed mental ill health as a result of COVID19 seem to have managed to get help yet here we are in a never ending queue and still waiting for help???? 

Strawberry1

I have issues with my mental health . Some people are saying I'm feeling sorry for myself .

FrankV

@Strawberry1
There is nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself, especially if no one else is there to feel sorry for you. Everyone's mental health issue is unique to themselves so don't bother yourself with what other people say. Express yourself the way you wish to and if you are having difficulty dealing with your issues, then focus only on those who are willing to support you rather than on those who are berating you, it's not worth it. Put yourself and your feelings first.

Strawberry1

Hi @FrankV , apologies for my late response.  Nice to meet you . Thank you for the support . I dont think some people understand . It's good to connect with people who understand.  Take care of yourself. 

Strawberry1

When my colitis flares up like it has done today . It really makes me feel very down in the dumps  .

FrankV

@Strawberry1
I have all sorts of aches and pains that trouble me constantly which then ends up making me feel down in the dumps, especially since at my ripe ol age of 53, single and have no family, I feel all sorry for myself for being lonely. I then force myself into the garden or get real comfortable with a fantasy novel and that then helps my mind to switch gears and lift my spirits. Try and do whatever you are capable of doing to switch your mind off from the colitis and focus on something that will bring you happiness. Unfortunately this is something only you can do, but I hope my tips of being in the garden or engrossed in a novel will help your day/s get better. Big hugs 🤗🤗🤗