Hi, my name is H25!

H25

Hi just looking to reach out. I'm 25 i have aspergers syndrome. And finding life really really difficult at the moment.

Ronke

Hi  H25,
Welcone.
Do you have support from your family or friends?

H25

I do yes but still feeling very alone at the moment. I'm currently at work and pulling my hair out. 

H25

Just need to create some kind of dialog with other people in my position. Need to know I'm not the only person out there of my age and ability.

Ronke

Are you worried about something?
Work can be a stressful enviroment.
What do you do?

H25

I'm just stacking shelves at the moment. I tend to get really bored very quickly. And start to be angry with everything around me. I know it's unhelpful. But I just can't level myself out.

Ronke

I see. I kmow there are others feeling like you are.

H25

Thank you feel like a coil. I don't want this to be another job I walk away from on bad terms. I just can't focus on the bigger picture at the moment.

Ronke

Okay you touched on bored, you sound like an intelligent person and stacking shelves must be very boring.
Sounds like you need a hobby. What are your interests?
It is okay to be angry. What else do you want to do?

H25

I like to fish I'm an outdoor kind of chap.

H25

Sorry that doesn't really give you much to go on but I am at work at the moment.

H25

You are gone ??

Ronke

No

Ronke

Just put my little daughter to bed.

H25

Wow you have a young child and still find the time to listen to people. I can't even find the time to listen to myself sometimes. 

Ronke

Well, I try my best, listening helps, we all need it.

Ronke

Have you finish work now?

Ronke

I'm going to call it a night, but please, feel free to send a message any time and I will do my best to respond as soon as I can.
Take, chat soon.

H25

Thank you I finish at midnight unfortunately. I really appreciate you giving your time to people it's refreshing to know there are people who will listen.

Chris_Alumni

Hi @H25, welcome to the community, I hope you find it friendly and supportive. If you'd like to get a good overview of the various discussion taking place, take a look at our groups page, and feel free to get involved or start a new discussion wherever you wish.

You might like to check out our ASD group, where there's usually plenty of conversations taking place. As Ronke says, getting engaged with hobbies and interests is always good, and I wonder if you've tried using a website like meetup.com to find groups with similar interests, such as fishing and other outdoor activities?

H25

Hi Chris thanks for getting in touch. I will certinatly take a look at meetup.  

bendigedig

@H25

Hi, I have an Aspergers diagnosis.

Im sorry to hear that you are in a job that is doing your head in

Somtimes, in situations like that,  I think its a good idea to look at tolerating the situation as a challenge?

I like to try and imagine, when Im in that sort of situation that its like a test.  A test to see if I can get through the day/shift without letting myself react to any triggers.  Like you, I have a child.  It often helps me to think of my responsibility to him.... Work is somthing that has been out of my reach for a while now,  id actually kind of like to be "bothered" by work again right now!

I find "things" a bit "unbelievable" and "overwhelming" somtimes...  In jobs that often dont make any sense, working with people that often dont make any sense,  this can be a real challenge.  Ive worked for Supermarkets before,  I think some are better than others!

I worked for Kwiksaves,  before they were bought out and for Morrisons.  Both companies had/have fairly poor reputations for the way they treat their staff.

Workers rights are being eroded all the time...  This often creates a stressfull and unpleasent workplace for everybody.  You have my total sympathy.

If you ever want to share notes, you know where to find me

bendigedig

Oops,  I misread above,  i thought that you had a child.  You never said that though did you!  Sorry.

H25

Thank you and it would be very useful to trade notes as you say. 
And I guess at the moment I lack the reason to be motivated at work. I have no one depending on me. And because of a rather bizarre thought process almost feel guilty that I don't have anyone to rely on me ,and that in only working for my own gain. (Figure that one out and I will buy you a medal) so yeah please do write back. I'm sure we will have lots to talk about.

bendigedig

@H25

I think as long as what we are thinking is sane and based in some rational process,  as long as it doesnt harm us or anybody else, what we do with our thoughts is for us alone to be concerned about.  Bizarre thoughts may not be as Bizare as we initially suspect they are!  Take dreams for example...... The unconsious mind making sense of a confusing world in the most bizarre way imaginable somtimes!

it sounds to me as though you are bored and that you are not being challenged enough by your work?

H25

You are correct I'm very bored off it. But I find myself being really good at something in the beginning focusing lots of time and energy on it and then getting bored as soon as I start to excel at it. Although I'm still young this is something that has happened time and time again. And has left me with a trail of employers who were glad to see me go.